Gender Identity Terms
Matthias Black
June 11, 2021
Disclaimer: Be mindful that this guide is not exhaustive, and is both Western and United States-centric. Other cultures may use different labels and have other
Latest Articles
The Cane Massage
Prep, Pleasure, and the Art of the Beautiful Mark By kinky smurf Okay, let’s talk about canes… Because I know what you’re thinking. You hear ...
Role, Interrupted
What happens to your dynamic when life changes the landscape, and how you find your way through it together By kinky smurf There’s a version ...
DOMINANCE AS A DISCIPLINE
There is a kind of man or woman, who walks into a room and the air changes. Not because they demand it. Not because they announce ...
Journaling for Littles and Middles
Because feelings are big—and you don’t have to carry them alone! Being a Little or Middle often means feeling everything very deeply—joy, ...
Surrender and Serenity
“There’s a quiet power in letting go.” As He said this to her, she knew in her heart it was true. Well…at least she knew it was true NOW. ...
Chemistry +Compatibility=Synergy
She sat in her car, reflecting on what her friend just told her. “At first, I was GLAD we started doing kinky stuff! Knowing he was as ...
The Cautionary Tale of Being a Master
It’s Not Just the Crown You Wear Disclaimer – These are my views and I have screwed the pooch more than a few times in over 20 years of ...
Making Beautiful Music…Together
He heard familiar sounds as He stepped out of the shower. He smiled as He dried Himself QUICKLY. He walked into the bedroom, taking ...
Structure Can Be Sweet
Crafting the Perfect Caregiver Routine Whether you’re a little, a middle, or a devoted Caregiver, routines can be more than just ...
Intro to Poly
Under the Umbrella The last several weeks we’ve been discussing the key point to the acronym BDSM, and some of the major points involved ...
Masochism
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed sadism, along with some of the responsibilities and safety precautions. When it comes to a ...
Sadism
Under the Umbrella Last week we had a look at submission, and the fact that just being submissive doesn’t remove responsibility for one’s ...
submission
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed Domination, as well as some key points that Dominants should be aware of to maintain a healthy ...
Domination
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed Discipline, the importance it serves in a BDSM dynamic, and some of the parts that help in ...
Discipline
Under The Umbrella We’ve already mentioned that many dynamics adopt a D/s (Dominant/submissive) or M/s (Master/slave) heirarchy, and the ...
Ending a Power Exchange Dynamic
Ending a power exchange (PE) relationship is not like ending most vanilla relationships. The depth of trust, structure and interdependence ...
Bondage- Under the Umbrella
Last week we kicked things off by going over some of the common umbrella terms in the kink community, that are often mantles that cover the ...
Under the Umbrella
In our lifestyle, however it may manifest, we are encountered with numerous“umbrella terms”. These terms cover various other umbrella terms, ...
Why Mindset Matters: The Power of Positivity in Power Exchange
Life isn’t all sunshine, orgasms and perfectly executed protocols. Sometimes, it’s tough. Work sucks. Bills pile up. Stress sneaks in, like ...
Brutal Honesty
The Non Negotiable Foundation of a Power Exchange Dynamic When stepping into a new power exchange dynamic, there’s one rule you can’t afford ...
Kink 101View More
The Cane Massage
Prep, Pleasure, and the Art of the Beautiful Mark By kinky smurf Okay, let’s talk about canes… Because I know what you’re thinking. You hear ...
Making Beautiful Music…Together
He heard familiar sounds as He stepped out of the shower. He smiled as He dried Himself QUICKLY. He walked into the bedroom, taking ...
Masochism
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed sadism, along with some of the responsibilities and safety precautions. When it comes to a ...
Sadism
Under the Umbrella Last week we had a look at submission, and the fact that just being submissive doesn’t remove responsibility for one’s ...
The Ultimate Guide to Sensory Deprivation
Are you ready to dive into the void and explore the tantalizing power of sensory deprivation? Then you’ve come to the right place. This ...
Whack, Smack, and Crack – Impact Play Fun
Impact play is one of the most popular and well-known aspects of BDSM—chances are, you’ve heard of it, and many of you have even given it a ...
Dominance and submission 101View More
The Cane Massage
Prep, Pleasure, and the Art of the Beautiful Mark By kinky smurf Okay, let’s talk about canes… Because I know what you’re thinking. You hear ...
Role, Interrupted
What happens to your dynamic when life changes the landscape, and how you find your way through it together By kinky smurf There’s a version ...
DOMINANCE AS A DISCIPLINE
There is a kind of man or woman, who walks into a room and the air changes. Not because they demand it. Not because they announce ...
Surrender and Serenity
“There’s a quiet power in letting go.” As He said this to her, she knew in her heart it was true. Well…at least she knew it was true NOW. ...
Chemistry +Compatibility=Synergy
She sat in her car, reflecting on what her friend just told her. “At first, I was GLAD we started doing kinky stuff! Knowing he was as ...
The Cautionary Tale of Being a Master
It’s Not Just the Crown You Wear Disclaimer – These are my views and I have screwed the pooch more than a few times in over 20 years of ...
Toy TimeView More
Creating the Perfect BDSM Dungeon at Home
Take your playtime to the next level by creating the perfect dungeon at home. Transforming your space into a private playground of pleasure ...
The Wide World of Gags
Gags are generally used to inhibit use of the mouth by inserting something into it to prevent speech or noise or to keep it open. In the ...
Anal Toys
It’s time to talk about the wide world of anal toys, what are they made of, how to keep them clean and some different types out there. When ...
Horsing Around
That’s right, we’re talking about pony play. What is ponyplay? Ponyplay is a type of role play within the pet play family, in which the ...
Anal Training
This is pretty much exactly what it sounds like, training your body for anal sex or larger anal toys (anal stretching). Some can be ...
The Cane Massage
Prep, Pleasure, and the Art of the Beautiful Mark By kinky smurf Okay, let’s talk about canes… Because I know what you’re thinking. You hear ...
Explore Our Communities
Authors
All Articles
In Position Part 2: Disabilities in Service
Castar Daemon
June 10, 2021
Welcome back to our second installment of submissive and slave positioning. Today we are going to talk about, “what to do when we are disabled,
Words of Advice For the Brand New Dominant…In No Particular Order.
Matthias Black
June 3, 2021
1)As I have said time and time again, beating somebody does not make you a Dominant. Let’s face it, anybody can be taught how to
In Position Part 1: In Service
Castar Daemon
June 1, 2021
Over the next ten weeks, we shall be going over various parts of service and positioning of the submissive and slave. My hope is with
Lesson Learned
Castar Daemon
June 1, 2021
“I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think.” – Socrates Quick question. What have you learned that has helped your life in
Thoughts Regarding Service
Matthias Black
May 27, 2021
Service is an important part of most D/s and M/s relationships. The term “service” can be applied to both sides of these relationships, but this
Finding a Mentor
Matthias Black
May 20, 2021
There are guides and mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSMit is oftentimes recommended that those who are new to BDSM acquire
Littles, Middles, and Bigs, oh my!
Castar Daemon
May 19, 2021
I’ve noticed in my many years of being in the “communities”, that with this new generation of kinksters, comes an influx of what some people
Impact Play
SmutHustler
May 14, 2021
Basics Before Play Impact play is by far one of my favorite kinks and the most common in my daily life. I am committed to
Becoming the New Norm
Matthias Black
May 13, 2021
Fetish Sex, Kink and D/s BDSM are oftentimes the most vilified, feared and misunderstood dimension of our sexual nature. For centuries, culture, religion, morality, and
Worship the D
kinky smurf
May 12, 2021
She was knelt before him, the outline of his cock calling to her only inches away. His symbol of power and potency firm and erect
Masturbation
Matthias Black
May 6, 2021
I mean, May is National Masturbation Month after all, right? Okay then…First, the basics. Masturbation is when an individual stimulates their genitals for sexual pleasure,