“A Conversation.”
Regina Charlisa
October 20, 2024
Looking at the Male submissive Perspective She smiled as she thought of him. She straightened herself up as she dialed. Two rings later, she saw
Latest Articles
The Cane Massage
Prep, Pleasure, and the Art of the Beautiful Mark By kinky smurf Okay, let’s talk about canes… Because I know what you’re thinking. You hear ...
Role, Interrupted
What happens to your dynamic when life changes the landscape, and how you find your way through it together By kinky smurf There’s a version ...
DOMINANCE AS A DISCIPLINE
There is a kind of man or woman, who walks into a room and the air changes. Not because they demand it. Not because they announce ...
Journaling for Littles and Middles
Because feelings are big—and you don’t have to carry them alone! Being a Little or Middle often means feeling everything very deeply—joy, ...
Surrender and Serenity
“There’s a quiet power in letting go.” As He said this to her, she knew in her heart it was true. Well…at least she knew it was true NOW. ...
Chemistry +Compatibility=Synergy
She sat in her car, reflecting on what her friend just told her. “At first, I was GLAD we started doing kinky stuff! Knowing he was as ...
The Cautionary Tale of Being a Master
It’s Not Just the Crown You Wear Disclaimer – These are my views and I have screwed the pooch more than a few times in over 20 years of ...
Making Beautiful Music…Together
He heard familiar sounds as He stepped out of the shower. He smiled as He dried Himself QUICKLY. He walked into the bedroom, taking ...
Structure Can Be Sweet
Crafting the Perfect Caregiver Routine Whether you’re a little, a middle, or a devoted Caregiver, routines can be more than just ...
Intro to Poly
Under the Umbrella The last several weeks we’ve been discussing the key point to the acronym BDSM, and some of the major points involved ...
Masochism
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed sadism, along with some of the responsibilities and safety precautions. When it comes to a ...
Sadism
Under the Umbrella Last week we had a look at submission, and the fact that just being submissive doesn’t remove responsibility for one’s ...
submission
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed Domination, as well as some key points that Dominants should be aware of to maintain a healthy ...
Domination
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed Discipline, the importance it serves in a BDSM dynamic, and some of the parts that help in ...
Discipline
Under The Umbrella We’ve already mentioned that many dynamics adopt a D/s (Dominant/submissive) or M/s (Master/slave) heirarchy, and the ...
Ending a Power Exchange Dynamic
Ending a power exchange (PE) relationship is not like ending most vanilla relationships. The depth of trust, structure and interdependence ...
Bondage- Under the Umbrella
Last week we kicked things off by going over some of the common umbrella terms in the kink community, that are often mantles that cover the ...
Under the Umbrella
In our lifestyle, however it may manifest, we are encountered with numerous“umbrella terms”. These terms cover various other umbrella terms, ...
Why Mindset Matters: The Power of Positivity in Power Exchange
Life isn’t all sunshine, orgasms and perfectly executed protocols. Sometimes, it’s tough. Work sucks. Bills pile up. Stress sneaks in, like ...
Brutal Honesty
The Non Negotiable Foundation of a Power Exchange Dynamic When stepping into a new power exchange dynamic, there’s one rule you can’t afford ...
Kink 101View More
The Cane Massage
Prep, Pleasure, and the Art of the Beautiful Mark By kinky smurf Okay, let’s talk about canes… Because I know what you’re thinking. You hear ...
Making Beautiful Music…Together
He heard familiar sounds as He stepped out of the shower. He smiled as He dried Himself QUICKLY. He walked into the bedroom, taking ...
Masochism
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed sadism, along with some of the responsibilities and safety precautions. When it comes to a ...
Sadism
Under the Umbrella Last week we had a look at submission, and the fact that just being submissive doesn’t remove responsibility for one’s ...
The Ultimate Guide to Sensory Deprivation
Are you ready to dive into the void and explore the tantalizing power of sensory deprivation? Then you’ve come to the right place. This ...
Whack, Smack, and Crack – Impact Play Fun
Impact play is one of the most popular and well-known aspects of BDSM—chances are, you’ve heard of it, and many of you have even given it a ...
Dominance and submission 101View More
The Cane Massage
Prep, Pleasure, and the Art of the Beautiful Mark By kinky smurf Okay, let’s talk about canes… Because I know what you’re thinking. You hear ...
Role, Interrupted
What happens to your dynamic when life changes the landscape, and how you find your way through it together By kinky smurf There’s a version ...
DOMINANCE AS A DISCIPLINE
There is a kind of man or woman, who walks into a room and the air changes. Not because they demand it. Not because they announce ...
Surrender and Serenity
“There’s a quiet power in letting go.” As He said this to her, she knew in her heart it was true. Well…at least she knew it was true NOW. ...
Chemistry +Compatibility=Synergy
She sat in her car, reflecting on what her friend just told her. “At first, I was GLAD we started doing kinky stuff! Knowing he was as ...
The Cautionary Tale of Being a Master
It’s Not Just the Crown You Wear Disclaimer – These are my views and I have screwed the pooch more than a few times in over 20 years of ...
Toy TimeView More
Slippery When Wet
Calm down, I am talking about lube. Lube is super important addition to all types of play, it can help prevent friction burn and prolong ...
Let’s Turn the Heat Up in Here
I’m talking about Temperature play and for this post specifically wax play. One of my absolute favorite tools for scenes. Let’s discuss ...
Horsing Around
That’s right, we’re talking about pony play. What is ponyplay? Ponyplay is a type of role play within the pet play family, in which the ...
The Wide World of Gags
Gags are generally used to inhibit use of the mouth by inserting something into it to prevent speech or noise or to keep it open. In the ...
Anal Toys
It’s time to talk about the wide world of anal toys, what are they made of, how to keep them clean and some different types out there. When ...
Impact Play
Basics Before Play Impact play is by far one of my favorite kinks and the most common in my daily life. I am committed to turning anything ...
Explore Our Communities
Authors
All Articles
What is Compersion?
SmutHustler
October 19, 2024
The Art of Feeling Warm Fuzzies When Your Partner’s Having a Good Time…With Someone Else Ah, compersion, the elusive, unicorn like feeling that every polyamorous
Embracing Your Kinky Self
kinky smurf
October 18, 2024
Let’s explore the empowering and exhilarating intersection of BDSM and body positivity. Whether you’ve been in the scene for a while or are a curious
A Look At Masochism
Regina Charlisa
October 17, 2024
“Masochism. Is. Agony. It’s also ecstasy. It’s also frustrating. And also exhilarating. It’s like, ‘It hurts me, yet doesn’t damage me.’ That feeling…that electric surge…then
Sensibly Social: Etiquette in BDSM and Kink Events
Regina Charlisa
September 7, 2024
They were nervous about what to expect. They went through several different outfits. They came up with codes and signals to use. Finally, the time
Ignite the Spark of Curiosity
kinky smurf
September 6, 2024
How to Introduce BDSM to a Vanilla Partner So, you’ve discovered the thrilling world of BDSM, and you’re eager to share it with your vanilla
Tips for littles and Caregivers—Age Play Exploration
kinky smurf
September 5, 2024
The delightful and whimsical world of age play, a kink that allows adults to regress into child like personas (littles) and their caregivers to embrace
TICK TOCK! Time Management in BDSM
Regina Charlisa
September 4, 2024
Day three of the Conference was BRUTAL. So many things went wrong; luckily everything was fixable. She was looking forward to tonight. However, when she
Digital Desires: Kink Friendly Dating Apps and How to Use Them
kinky smurf
September 3, 2024
Today Free the Kinkers, we are going to talk about going to the internet to fulfill our desires. That’s right, we are talking about kink
Creating the Perfect BDSM Dungeon at Home
kinky smurf
August 17, 2024
Take your playtime to the next level by creating the perfect dungeon at home. Transforming your space into a private playground of pleasure is an
The “C” Word: Discovering Consent
Regina Charlisa
August 16, 2024
“Ready for it, sparky?” She grinned as she surveyed her work. He was tied to the chair, nipples clamped, caged, gagged and blindfolded. Yet, he
Recognizing the Signs of Gaslighting – Shedding Light on Manipulative Tactics
SmutHustler
June 30, 2023
Gaslighting, a term derived from the play and subsequent movie “Gas Light,” refers to a form of psychological manipulation that aims to make the victim