Littles, Middles, and Bigs, oh my!

I’ve noticed in my many years of being in the “communities”, that with this new generation of kinksters, comes an influx of what some people call a “controversial” archetype… The Little and Age-player.

There seems to be a misunderstanding of the littles, middles, princesses, princes, young royals, and even liddles. Some say they are part of the bdsm community; some say they are not. Some view them as the cute and snuggly; some view their dynamic as borderline pedophilia. Haters gonna hate, amirite?

Did you know that not all littles are submissive? Mind blown! Yes, there are Dominant littles. Below, I have given examples and definitions of some of the terms one may find themselves coming across when in or adjacent to this lifestyle. These terms are not all inclusive, as each person can define themselves as they wish. These are just generalized definitions to get a better understanding.

Little- a person of any gender that exhibits child like behavior, specifically around age 2 to 7. They can either get into, “little space” or they could always be a little, and get into “big space” to do things like go to work, pay bills, etc, living the rest of the time as a little.

Liddle- a term to describe a little thats just a bit older. Age 8 to about 11. They enjoy more age appropriate activities to that age group.

Middle- Pre-teen to about 16. They are the ones whom live a life with all the ups and downs of teen “angst”. This is where the majority of bratty behavior is displayed. Ahh, cellphones, tiktok dances, moodswings, sassy backtalk… and no, not all middles are that way. Some are gearing up for adulthood and learning responsibility.

Brats. Id be doing a disservice if I didn’t mention Brats. Brats are just that. Brats. A brat is in an authority exchange dynamic with a caregiver of some type. Which one is in charge? Ill allow you, the reader to determine that for yourself.

Princes – young boys who are treated as royalty

Princesses – young girls who are treated as royalty

Young Royals – the gender neutral term for the above definitions to be radically inclusive.

Caregiver- the adult standing side of the dynamic. Goes by many terms. Daddy, Mommy, Auntie, King, Advisor, the list goes on. But I digress. We are speaking of the littles side of things here.

For the examples, I will use the gender neutral term of young royals. I wish everyone to be included.

Examples of possible Dynamics
This list is not all inclusive of every style of dynamic. These are just generalized definitions for a better beginning of understanding.

Young Royal – submissive.
This is the person that ultimately wants to be good, follow the rules, get rewarded, and be praised. They will push up against the rules to see just how far they stretch, and to make sure their Dominant type is watching. Yes, they will sometimes overstep. This is why they need a reminder.

An example of a submissive young royal would be Advisor/young royal. Someone to tell them what to do, and be held accountable.

Young Royal – Dominant
This is the person who doesnt follow the rules because they make the rules. If their caregiver tells them no, they may stomp on a foot, pull hair, slap, etc. These people are the ones in control. Example. They dont want 6 strawberries; they want THOSE 6 strawberries, cut in perfect halves, on the left side of the castle shaped plate, with 3 different chocolate dances on the right to be dipped into. And by God, they’ll have it or else!

An example of a Dominant young royal would be
Young Royal \ servant. This works well with masochistic service oriented people. The Young Royal demands , the servant delivers.

There are also multi little dynamics. Example.
Middle/little. Does anyone remember how when Mom left and our older sibling was in charge? Remember how the older sibling bossed us around and made us do all the chores and threaten to beat us if we didnt? Ta-da! That’s this sort of dynamic.

Also, we can reverse this to Little/middle. This is when the younger of the two, controls the power through, crying to Mom, saying you hit them, fear tactics, youthful manipulation, etc. The little has the control here.

There are also many other dynamics involving Dominant or submissive pets, but that’s for another time.

I know I have barely scratched the surface on this very interesting set of personalities and dynamics. Hopefully you continue your education and seek out people to talk with and learn from..

So, whatever they are, they are definitely to stay.

Now go cover someone in stickers, tie a sheet around your shoulders and be the superhero you are you pretty little princess you. 😉

Castar Daemon

Master Daemon is a international presenter and educator on "The Lifestyle" and " BDSM" specializing in Discipline, Total Power Exchange and the Master /slave dynamic. He has been active since 1994 in many various circles. Before moving to Atlanta from Texas in 2014, he owned and operated a successful training school for the new and old alike. Since his time in Atlanta, he has presented for 1763, DomCon, LLC, Frolicon, SELF, The Atlanta Eagle, the Atlanta Mentors Group, The School of Hard Knox, many private venues, and has traveled to different countries sharing his wisdom. He owns Daemon Entertainment, a kink friendly and fueled business specializing in hosting lifestyle events , and as consultants to help people safely host their own.
He also runs the Gorean Underground Network; A group promoting unity amongst the many compounds and differences of the Gorean beliefs.
When not pursuing his philanthropy, He spends his time with his House and family of choice, leading them towards excellence.
He is a highly trained hijamist and believes people should have the highest quality of life as they can achieve.
He is the Master of his House of Daemon, a structured, protocol driven, Gorean House, and Owner and Master of his little jira pixi.

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