The Cane Massage
Prep, Pleasure, and the Art of the Beautiful Mark By kinky smurf Okay, let’s talk about canes… Because I know what you’re thinking. You hear the word cane and your brain immediately goes to that sharp, stinging crack that makes your eyes water just thinking about it. And yes, we will absolutely get there. But…
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Role, Interrupted
What happens to your dynamic when life changes the landscape, and how you find your way through it together By kinky smurf There’s a version of your dynamic that exists when everything is aligned. When the structure is present, the roles are fully inhabited, and the connection between you hums with the quiet certainty of…
DOMINANCE AS A DISCIPLINE
There is a kind of man or woman, who walks into a room and the air changes. Not because they demand it. Not because they announce themselves. But because they have done something quietly, privately, for years. They have learned to govern themselves. This is where Dominance begins. Not in another person. In oneself. Power…
SmutHustler
Surrender and Serenity
“There’s a quiet power in letting go.” As He said this to her, she knew in her heart it was true. Well…at least she knew it was true NOW. Even with all her experience, she struggled with it. So much so that, early on in her journey, it felt like she was in the ocean,…
Regina Charlisa
Chemistry +Compatibility=Synergy
She sat in her car, reflecting on what her friend just told her. “At first, I was GLAD we started doing kinky stuff! Knowing he was as excited as I was! But lately…the spark is gone! He still wants to try this toy or that kink; and I just wanna watch YouTube until I fall…
The Cautionary Tale of Being a Master
It’s Not Just the Crown You Wear Disclaimer – These are my views and I have screwed the pooch more than a few times in over 20 years of leading a beautiful and amazing submissive woman. Enjoy. Many people love the fantasy of Dominance. The commanding presence and the control. The title of Master just…
submission
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed Domination, as well as some key points that Dominants should be aware of to maintain a healthy dynamic. A large portion of that involved certain responsibilities that fall on the Dominant, but they are only part of the dynamic. This week we’re going to have a look at…
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Domination
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed Discipline, the importance it serves in a BDSM dynamic, and some of the parts that help in establishing and maintaining discipline. While discussing this I made mention of Dominants and submissives, which are both common roles each partner takes on in a BDSM based dynamic. The next couple…
Ending a Power Exchange Dynamic
Ending a power exchange (PE) relationship is not like ending most vanilla relationships. The depth of trust, structure and interdependence involved means that a Dominant has a profound responsibility to navigate the transition with care, respect and ethical integrity. Whether the relationship was lifelong or short term, whether it ended amicably or due to conflict,…
Brutal Honesty
The Non Negotiable Foundation of a Power Exchange Dynamic When stepping into a new power exchange dynamic, there’s one rule you can’t afford to fudge, dance around or sugarcoat, be brutally honest about your needs, wants and desires. Not “hint at,” not “hope they’ll just understand,” not “assume it’ll all work out.” Full, unfiltered, cards-on-the-table…