I’m talking about Temperature play and for this post specifically wax play. One of my absolute favorite tools for scenes.
Let’s discuss some basics. This list is by no means comprehensive and you should defiantly do your homework but here are some definite points that you should think about and use.
First let’s talk Prep. Yes, there is or at least should be prep work:
1. Communication is always critical in anything in our lifestyle so it should go without saying, but. Talk with your partner about the scene. Discuss hard limits, coverage areas and so on.
2. Safeword: Please make sure everyone knows the Safeword and everyone is comfortable using it and respecting it.
3. Plan for the worst. Make sure the scene area is clean and free of anything that is not involved in the scene. No cloths or other flammable items should be on the table in which your set up is laid out.
4. Your partner should shave if possible, wax and hair are not good friends.
5. Test your candles on yourself and your partner before the scene even starts. Make sure everyone can handle the intensity.
6. Never, ever leave burning candles unattended.
7. Have fire extinguisher, water and first aid kit in the room. If you don’t have burn cream, don’t play.
Now Let’s Talk Candles,
The most important thing to remember it all boils down to ingredients:
1. Soy Candles are regularly recommended for several reasons. #1 – they burn at a much lower temperature. At about 130F. #2 – Soy based candle wax cools much more rapidly reducing the risk of scarring or serious burning. #3 – Soy is a great product and is the least likely of all candles to contain irritants.
2. Scented and paraffin candles will burn at about 135 degrees. The problem with many of these types of candles are the additives and chemicals you find in them. Do your homework and test these to make sure there is no negative reactions for your partner.
3. Metallic Candles are never recommended. Many metallic salts can be poisonous as well as they burn hotter and could leave permanent scarring.
4. Beeswax candles should also never be used according to the professionals. They burn at some of the highest temperatures at a starting point of 145F and up to 170F. That is hot enough to leave serious burns, blisters and permanent scarring.
5. Avoid anything with Stearin in it. Stearin burns so hot it can and commonly does leave second degree burns.
They make safety candles that are highly recommended for beginning play.
Massage candles with special oils in them can also be very nice for wax play.
TIP: If you use massage candles and some safety candles, let it burn for 15-20 minutes to allow more even melting.
Ok Let’s Talk Application:
1. You should drop wax not pour it.
2. Hold the candle about 2-3 minimum away from your partner.
3. Do not allow wax to pool in natural valleys of the body or places such as the belly button.
4. NEVER allow wax into orafices of any kind. Wax is strictly an external pleasure.
Far be it for me to tell anyone how to play, but please allow me to share my opinion on this one matter. Wax play can be so beautiful, just like the canvas you get the privilege of decorating. Make it fun for your partner and make it an art piece. Avoid large clumping and allow for natural dripping and running because it can make such beautiful results. Just my opinion.
TIP: Rotating your candle while it burns will keep it clean and even.
TIP: Ice hardens candle wax. So you get to give the gift of dual pleasure a little cold to calm the fire. It also will aid in the clean up.
Speaking of clean up candle wax is messy and can be a pain to clean up and can keep you finding little pieces of wax everywhere. Buying disposable sheets can be a great way to aid in clean up.
Don’t Forget the Aftercare:
While we know that aftercare is always crucial when playing, it can be especially important for wax play. Including a rub down of your partner’s body with a nice moisturizing cream that includes Aloe Vera can really soothe the skin. I also found that creating your own blend Aloe Vera and burn cream can be really amazing as well.
