BDSM and Sex
Matthias Black
August 8, 2021
A common misconception that causes havoc at times in the kink community is that BDSM, sex and/or love automatically must go together. While this statement
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Regina Charlisa
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How many of Y/you have seen the movie “Backdraft?” The firefighters had a motto whenever one of them was about to fall and the others
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Most partners engaging in BDSM for the first time do have challenges trying to plan on how they want the whole session to go. Indeed,
Surrender
Regina Charlisa
July 28, 2021
“Once Upon A Time…” She walked in and began to kneel. He said, “No…Inspection.” She obeyed. She looked at Him; His eyes were…different. She looked
Treasures
Matthias Black
July 22, 2021
If you are new to BDSM, or impact play specifically, you might wonder what to do about your conspicuously hot post-play marks or “treasures” as
Starting and Stopping
Regina Charlisa
July 21, 2021
ne·go·ti·a·tion /nəˌɡōSHēˈāSH(ə)n noun Heyyy, Y/y’all! Entering into a BDSM relationship is much like getting into any other type of relationship. However it is also unlike
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Matthias Black
July 15, 2021
*cue tribal drums* All of us have it…An aggressive inner force, an animalistic energy that we encounter occasionally, usually in times of extreme emotional or
A Constant Adventure
Regina Charlisa
July 14, 2021
Heyyy, Y/y’all! Okay, so Y/you see something that intrigues Y/you and say to yourself, “S/self…I like that! I think I am using/trying that one!” Okay
Drugs, Alcohol and the Scene
Matthias Black
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Disclaimer: Just a reminder that these opinions are mine and mine alone based on what I have personally witnessed or heard throughout my journey that
Location, Location,LOCATION!!!
Regina Charlisa
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Heyyy, y’all! O/our Thing is vast, exciting, challenging, exhilarating and exhausting under ideal circumstances. But add lack of opportunity to that mix and things can
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Matthias Black
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Castar Daemon
June 29, 2021
Part Three of a Ten part Series Greetings to all you wonderful readers out there. Today I hope to inspire the mind by continuing on