Heyyy, y’all! O/our Thing is vast, exciting, challenging, exhilarating and exhausting under ideal circumstances. But add lack of opportunity to that mix and things can get even more interesting. There are folks who live in rural areas or metropolitan but less Kink positive cities. That sucks, right? Imagine trying to live your best kinky life in a place that doesn’t even have a Hot Topic store! The HORROR.
Some don’t have to imagine it because they live it. Then there are others who live in an area where there is so much opportunity for action that they just want to retreat to a blanket fort and forget about the outside world. this girl was stoked to walk into a villa in Italy and walk into a whole new world. The down side was that it was easy at first. So much so that every place she landed, this girl assumed that O/our Thing was readily accessible and easily accepted. Yeah, no. No secret symbols spray painted on buildings. No blacked out buildings in the warehouse district. And no other villas. It became obvious that the BDSM Community is not easy to find. No wonder Social Media is blowing up! But what this girl forgot was that there are reasons that certain locations are more Kink friendly than others. Perhaps that particular local Community is comprised of very private people. Perhaps they are not afforded the opportunity to have a building dedicated to BDSM. Perhaps the majority of the citizens are not very welcoming. Perhaps there are ordinances in place that make having public Kink space impossible. Perhaps you’re legitimately the only one in your area. So now what? It isn’t always realistic to be able to travel. So why not take a little time to assess our location.
How many of us have taken a trip to a hardware or craft supply store in search of gear? Been extra observant when out in public for others like us? Check Google Maps frequently to plot out travel distances? Location can be a beautiful thing or it can affect O/our progress along O/our journey in unexpected ways. O/our Thing is full of innovative, resilient, fearless, adventurous and resourceful people. So focus on the hidden (in plain sight) opportunities W/we may have in our neck of the woods. this girl doesn’t have all the answers. Reality is that none of us do. But let’s try to make learning fun.
Thanks for reading.
