“Time’s up. Get out and get ready for it.” He smiled as He walked back out of the bathroom. she felt that familiar flutter of excitement. she was soaking in the tub as required but had no idea what happened next. she got up, dried herself off and prepared her skin for Impact, bondage and temperature action. she put on the T-shirt hanging on the door as it was the only clothing there. she knew it was placed there for her. she walked into the dark bedroom and looked around for Him. He was seated in the chair across from the bed. As she began to kneel, He snapped His fingers and pointed towards the bed behind her. He used the flashlight on His phone to show her what had been placed there for her. she froze, then looked back at Him, quizzically. “You know what this is.” she picked up the toy and sat on the edge of the bed. He turned on the lamp beside Him but directed the light towards her. It warmed her skin and heated her already flushed cheeks. “Ready?” she gripped the toy with one hand and reached for the lube with the other. “Yes, Sir.” He was cloaked in shadow…she could only make out His shape. He chuckled and said, “Begin.” she turned on the toy and began to touch herself with it, gently, cautiously. she felt the rush building. “More” He said. she pressed down harder. Omg it’s tingling now! “More.” she started to grind against the toy now. her eyes closed, her head back, suddenly she felt His hand on her throat. When did He get up??? “MORE” He whispered. she felt the heat now….the pressure building…her breathing became ragged, her moans, coming from deep in her throat, were struggling to escape because He was tightening His grip. “More!” The throbbing…the breathlessness…grinding…goosesbumps…and then…He snatched the toy away. “Not yet.” she crashed. she wanted to collapse on the bed. He released His grip on her throat; He denied her of His body heat as well. she cursed in her head but dared not say a word out loud. He handed her back the toy and said, “Again.” This went on for what seemed like an eternity. “Again. More. MORE. More! Not yet. Again.”
she was frustrated but excited at the same time because she knew that once He granted her release it would be GLORIOUS.
OKAY.. shake it off, y’all! What just happened? In a word: Edging. Edging means coming (hehe) super close to orgasm… and then stopping O/ourselves from release at the last minute. It. Is. Intense. It’s torturous. W/we know this. But learning how to Edge O/ourselves is a great skill to master when it comes to making O/our orgasms better.
While the word Edging is fairly new, the technique has actually been around since 1956 when it was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine by James H. Semans. He introduced Edging as the “stop-start method” to help folks last longer before reaching orgasm. Longer sex, better orgasms? Sounds like Edging is a beautiful thing!
So what exactly is the process of Edging? Think of Edging as if being juuuuuust about to jump out of an airplane but then, right before Y/you leap, Y/you stop. Basically, getting to the point of orgasm and BAM!- Y/you stop.
Again, why on earth would W/we even do this? Because when W/we’re able to master this repeatedly — edge, stop, edge, stop — W/we’re building up to have an earth shattering orgasm!!!!
Edging makes for a more satisfying orgasm for women, but also serves another purpose for men. As Mr. Semans points out, Edging for a man helps T/them avoid pre-ejaculating. It not only helps men last longer but also allows T/them to get in tune with T/their bodies just like women. And when men can control when and how T/they orgasm, T/they will be even more able to snatch souls with a satisfied smile on T/their faces! Keep in mind that Edging is an interesting and exciting exploration of O/our bodies, with or without a partner in pleasure.
Most of us can tell when W/we are about to blast off. But it is different for everyone. So before W/we start learning how to Edge, it’s important to know what it feels like when W/we’re heated up and ready to have an orgasm. It generally goes down like this:
O/our bodies will start to feel “amped up.” A racing heartbeat as well as a flushed appearance. Blood will rush to O/our genitals, causing the vagina to get wet and the scrotum to withdraw. At this point, everything in O/our bodies feels more intense. W/we’re ALMOST there!!! And when W/we Edge, this is where W/we should stop — just before orgasm. We feel that bliss. That release of nerves and muscles happens here, as the vagina lubricates even more and the penis ejaculates. This is the stage to avoid when Edging.
How do W/we Edge?
It’s widely recommended that before edging with a partner, W/we start practicing alone first. That way, W/we get to know O/our body’s rhythm better and can figure out exactly what “O/our Edge” feels like.
A few steps that may ease U/us into Edging:
- Start with a peaceful and sensual environment. Minimize the ALL the outside noise to lessen distractions because the next step is impossible without doing this.
- Listen to O/our bodies. How does it feel when W/we touch O/ourselves? In what ways do W/we like to be stimulated? How does O/our body respond? What subtle shifts are happening and when? These are good indicators of what to pay attention to when it comes to O/our state of arousal and how close W/we to orgasm.
- Stop stimulation. When W/we feel like W/we’re about to orgasm, stop! After all…this is the whole point of Edging, remember?
- Take a break and repeat.
- CHECKMATE!!!!
Keep in mind that Edging has several benefits and doesn’t really pose any health-related threats to the body. However, it can cause- big word alert!- Epididymal Hypertension in some cases. This is when a person’s testicles feel soreness or aching caused by sexual stimulation that doesn’t end in an orgasm. It can also cause heaviness in the testes. But contrary to popular belief, Edging does NOT cause Erectile Dysfunction.
Edging together can be fun – and FRUSTRATING- AF! When O/our partner(s) know O/our bodies as well as W/we do and vice versa, shit gets REAL, Y/y’all. So pay attention. Study T/them. Edge in front of each other. Send videos, do it live, let the imagination go wild. And of course…COMMUNICATE!!! Bottom line…Edging is about control and release, right?
Okay, y’all…let’s go forth and get O/our Edge on!
~ His Duchess
