she was up early, prepping for the class she would be teaching later that morning. He asked if she was fully prepared. “Yes, Sir. this slave enjoys teaching this module, Signore.” she wondered…did she sound arrogant? Could He tell how nervous she was??? Dammit! Of course! That’s why He’s so quiet! “Let’s help you remain focused. You know what that means.” Yes…she knew. “Which color, Signore?” After a moment He replied, “Blue. It matches your outfit.” she went to get the blue rope, removed her top and began to tie a snug Chest Harness. “Tomorrow is your Training Day so it’ll be the plug. Do you understand?” Squeeeee!!!! “Si, Signore. Grazie, Signore.” Once she received approval of her work she redressed and continued her prep, then headed to the Training Center. she got an extra charge because of the rope against her skin, aware that no one knew she was bound. she was grateful that He always found a way to keep her mind right in any setting.
Heyyyy, y’all! Well…a lot of U/us are very open about who W/we are and what W/we do regarding O/our Thing. Collars, kneeling wherever/whenever, Y/you name it. However, there may be settings/situations where that might not be ideal. But W/we are rebels, right? W/we don’t want to conform, but W/we are also respectful of others in mixed spaces. So…have no fear! After some research, conversations with O/others along with this girl’s personal experiences…
Here are a few ways to be kinky in most settings:
*Wearing Toys/Tools Under O/our Clothes
Wearing things under appropriate clothing for the occasion is a common kinkster move! It can also be about what W/we aren’t wearing underneath O/our clothes. There are a wide variety of toys that can be worn by all genders for a few hours with the right preparation. Some of them come with remote controls that can be used to summon submissives, get our attention, test our self discipline or get us back in the proper headspace. And let’s not forget about rope. This one takes preparations as well.
*Wear a collar
submissives often wear collars because they are symbols of commitment and Ownership, much like a wedding ring. There are many collars available. There are black leather collars, gold, silver, fabric, stainless steel, etc. If you actually have the option to wear whatever you like, take a walk down the pet aisle in any store or visit the mall. It’s often less expensive. Also, be mindful that there may be folks who know EXACTLY what Collars are and prepare for the looks and nods lol.
*Wearing “Special” Undies..or Not
Depending on Y/your gender and anatomy, Y/your choice of underwear – or lack thereof – can be a real kink. A submissive and Dominant could negotiate a night out in which a usually feminine presenting submissive wears tighty whities, or a masculine presenting person wears a lacy g-string.
*Right by Their side
The Dominant keeps their submissive one step behind, and often, a little to the right – historically recognized as”the side of favor.” If the submissive has social anxieties and wants a buffer between them and other people in public, this “stay RIGHT HERE” kink can feel downright soothing, like a weighted blanket. Especially if the both the Dominant and the submissive acknowledge, embrace and participate in the “right hand of favor” aspect that can make this seem so chivalrous and old fashioned. It is also a way to help a submissive feel more assured of their purpose and place, while assuring the Dominant their submissive is in a position to serve and obey.
*Hand Holding
If the submissive isn’t walking a step behind, their Dominant could be holding the submissive by the wrist, allowing Them to sense their submissive’s pulse racing, by the back of the neck, forcing them to lift their chin to the room proudly but keep eyes down unless being addressed directly or guiding them a step ahead by the lower back, a move from “gentlemanly” acts of long ago. Remember, Power Exchange roles matter more than gender roles in O/ourThing. Any gender can be “chivalrous.”
*Speech
this girl LOVES this one. Limiting or even restricting her speech is an opportunity for her to stay in the right headspace but also gives The FLYGOD the opportunity to be in absolute control of this girl’s interaction with O/others. It creates an entirely new language for U/us. Nonverbal cues using eye contact, a touch, gestures, sounds become the primary methods of communication. The FLYGOD orders drinks/food.
*Word Cues
This one is EPIC. Example: each time someone responds with the word, “Awesome!” or something else determined prior to Y/your arrival, the submissive or Dominant reacts in a method of the Dominant’s choosing. It could be a squeeze of the submissive’s ass, the submissive looking down at the floor, the Dominant nodding their desire for the submissive to take a sip of their drink, a light kiss on the cheek, snapping a rubber band on the wrist, etc…something that makes it clear that Y/you are trustful, connected and devoted to each O/other.
*Movement Restriction
A submissive and Dominant could also negotiate that movement in space is restricted. Negotiate no bathroom for a specific period of time. As another example of responsible, ethical Dominance using undercover kink: friends or acquaintances may want to take the submissive elsewhere but the Dominant shuts it down with a simple yet stern, “Not now.” or even clearing Their throat is effective. This one will definitely turn heads as it keeps the submissive in line.
*Snap!
For those who like to “show their asses” by acting bratty, there are subtle ways of managing this tango lol. Pouting, stomping feet, walking slowly, folding arms, even sticking tongues out are often the go to moves. Dominants may respond with a snap of Their fingers, a growl, clearing their throats, or phrases that let them know they will pay for acting out. The countdown is EPIC and can be used on any type of submissive.
Bottom line…There are many, many, MANY ways that Y/you can finesse some undercover kinkiness into otherwise basic, boring everyday events/places while leaving folks wondering if they saw what they thought they saw. Who knows…it might even spark an opportunity to educate them and put them at ease or ensure they avoid Y/you altogether. Either way Y/your dynamic(s) survived the event, maybe got even stronger! Follow this girl’s suggestion and compare notes with those Y/you know, respect and trust. Enjoy, Y/y’all!!!
~His Duchess
