What is a Play Party?
A Play Party is a social gathering of people with an interest in kink or BDSM that usually happens in a more private setting. Unlike Munches, the gathering will typically have kink activities going on. This may include everything from instructional guides to full-on scenes. Some Play Parties will have open invitations, but many are by invite only. One great way to find Play Parties is at Munches. Meeting people and allowing them to get to know you will be your best bet to get invited to one. Protocols for Play Parties can be and often times are very strict.
Play Party Protocols:
The following are typical Protocols that you will find at most Play Parties. This list is definitely not comprehensive but it’s a good start.
First, at Play Parties you will usually find what’s referred to as a Dungeon Monitor also known as a Dungeon Master or DM. These individuals have absolute final say in everything. Make no mistake, take heed to what they say or you’ll be out. Their job is to make sure the rules are followed. Remember in many places, our communities are tightly connected and a bad reputation can spread fast.
1. Never touch someone without explicit permission.
2. Never touch someone’s equipment or other personal items without permission.
3. Don’t forget your photo ID.
4. Never involve yourself in a scene in anyway without invitation.
5. Never walk in front of an active scene, through an active scene or disrupt an active scene for any reason.
6. Do not be overly loud, chatty or disruptive while scenes are going on in play areas.
7. Keep all play in the designated play areas.
8. Clean up after yourself. Not just play spaces, but your trash or mess as well. Remember the people that host these and those working the party are often times volunteers.
9. Always verify if nudity of any kind is allowed. Don’t assume.
10. “No” means “no” and in this situation, you’re not owed any explanations.
11. Please remember DMs have a lot going on. They can’t read your mind. Tell them if you need something. Just be respectful.
12. DMs are not there to hook you up with people to play with.
13. Space and time may be limited, so do not overstay or hog play equipment.
14. Please remember that in many circumstances alcohol cannot be present. If that’s the case DO NOT try and sneak it in.
15. Most parties have a “no picture” rule. Part of protecting that is the “no cell phone” rule. Unless otherwise instructed DO NOT take out your cell phone for any reason.
16. In the absence of a safe word “RED” is the default typically.
17. DMs will always side with safety, they don’t care you’ve done something a thousand times. Listen to them anyway.
18. Never walk away from a bound bottom. If you need to step away for any reason, you must get someone to watch them first.
19. Treat everyone with respect. Doms, Masters, subs, slaves, switches Tops, bottoms, etc.
20. If you break a rule, it’s your fault for not verifying the rules beforehand.
21. Always show respect to the host(s) by thanking them for the invitation.
There is usually a list of rules provided so make sure you have it and read it. Failure to do so may make this party, your last party.
Have you ever attended a play party? What was your experience like? Do you know of more protocols that might be important for others to know?
