Dominance and submission 101

Your First BDSM Scene

Your First BDSM Scene

Most partners engaging in BDSM for the first time do have challenges trying to plan on how they want the whole session to go.  Indeed, planning such scenes can be quite personal, however, the guidelines below to help you plan better.  -Create your goals You will have to decide on your expectations and the roles…

Surrender

Surrender

“Once Upon A Time…” She walked in and began to kneel. He said, “No…Inspection.” She obeyed. She looked at Him; His eyes were…different. She looked down; the slap was quick and sharp. She wasn’t expecting it. Her eyes watered. Her cheek burned. Her mouth watered. Is that…blood? Suddenly His hand was on her arm, lifting…

Starting and Stopping

Starting and Stopping

ne·go·ti·a·tion /nəˌɡōSHēˈāSH(ə)n noun Heyyy, Y/y’all! Entering into a BDSM relationship is much like getting into any other type of relationship. However it is also unlike many relationships in many ways. The old phrase “knowledge is power” holds true for anyone who is considering getting into a BDSM relationship and signing a contract. Getting that knowledge…

A Constant Adventure

A Constant Adventure

Heyyy, Y/y’all! Okay, so Y/you see something that intrigues Y/you and say to yourself, “S/self…I like that! I think I am using/trying that one!” Okay GREAT! But will Y/you research it first? Find out if it is physically/mentally/emotionally/ financially possible to incorporate into Y/your dynamic(s)? Y/you know all the folks that saw “The Movies” that…

Handling Arguments

Handling Arguments

I think one reason that the answer did not come to me straight away is that Dahlia and I do not argue on a regular basis. I would have to say we have one or two major disagreements a year that would be considered a relationship argument.  For the sake of comparison, my ex and I…

In Position Part 3: Admittance of Error/Coming Clean

In Position Part 3: Admittance of Error/Coming Clean

Part Three of a Ten part Series Greetings to all you wonderful readers out there. Today I hope to inspire the mind by continuing on Positioning of a slave/sub. We have already experienced the commands of kneeling and in service. Last week we spoke about the How-to’s of s-type positioning when one is incapable due…

In Position Part 2: Disabilities in Service

In Position Part 2: Disabilities in Service

Welcome back to our second installment of submissive and slave positioning. Today we are going to talk about, “what to do when we are disabled, elderly or handicapped and cannot do certain positions any longer.” Well, don’t you worry, Master Daemon has the answers for you. Sidenote- Yes I just referred to myself in third…

Words of Advice For the Brand New Dominant…In No Particular Order.

Words of Advice For the Brand New Dominant…In No Particular Order.

1)As I have said time and time again, beating somebody does not make you a Dominant. Let’s face it, anybody can be taught how to use a cane, ridingcrop, flogger, restraints, etc. Just because you have become adept atkicking somebody’s ass is not the mark of a Dominant. At worst, you are anabuser and should…

In Position Part 1: In Service

In Position Part 1: In Service

Over the next ten weeks, we shall be going over various parts of service and positioning of the submissive and slave. My hope is with this knowledge, you find more beauty in your dynamic, and honor to one another. To offer and accept service are two different things; and we shall be going over both…

Lesson Learned

Lesson Learned

“I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think.” – Socrates Quick question. What have you learned that has helped your life in the BDSM community? What have you learned that, once shared has helped others? Interesting thoughts that we seldom take the time to examine, but are worth their weight in gold. …