Once Upon A Time when she was on the other side of the slash…
It was a hectic day at work. she worked outside and during December in Germany, driving a forklift can be brutal. As she drove toward the loading dock, she saw him. The Warehouse Supervisor. The Soldier in charge. Standing there, looking uncomfortable. She parked the forklift and walked toward him. “You can come in and help with Receiving. It’s too cold out there.” She smiled as she noticed how he was standing. “Thank you. I should be able to thaw before dinner time now.” She shook her keys as she walked past him. Later that night, as she drove to her destination, she smiled while touching her keychain. Upon arrival, she walked into the building and unlocked a door. It was dimly lit as she walked in. Walking past the bathroom into the main area, she saw him…kneeling…and naked. “Good evening, Regina. the toy has been waiting and is ready to serve, Queen.” She took off her coat and stood quietly in front of him. “Excellent. Inspection, toy.” the toy slowly stood up and assumed the position. She checked his cage. “Has the toy tampered with this?!” As she gently tapped on it, the toy flinched. “Never, Regina.” the toy gasped as she traced the key in her hand across the toy’s lips, shoulders, neck, nipples and around the toy’s navel. “Is the toy worthy?” She smiled as she looked down at the Chastity Cage the toy has been wearing for a week this time. Over a period of months she has been working with the toy. Being patient and transparent. Talking about hygiene, good/bad habits, sleeping, arousal and orgasms, everything. She is proud of the toy. “the toy is never worthy, Regina.” As she took the toy’s chin in her hand and turned his face toward her to meet her gaze she smiled and whispered, “Interesting. Let’s work on that, shall we? Wall. NOW.” She heard the toy whimper then assume the position. the next thing the toy felt and heard was the familiar whoosh of air as she wound up her flogger. “Congratulations! The toy soldier is worthy of 7 strikes!”
Heyyy, y’all! this girl has been having some conversations with the amazing male submissives in her orbit. One of the things she has discovered is that they have varied viewpoints about Chastity.
For those who aren’t familiar with Chastity, let’s start with the dictionary definition, which is “the state or practice of refraining from extramarital, or especially from all, sexual intercourse.” Well, the Kink definition is pretty much the same. Male submissives who indulge in Chastity might avoid penetration only or any type of sexual activity altogether. And that includes Masturbation. So it’s understandable why some simply aren’t into it. this girl had one toy that was VERY enthusiastic about Chastity and even enjoyed wearing a Chastity Cage because of not being able to be aroused without being in this girl’s presence. Another toy said that the concept of Chastity wasn’t going to work because his wife was against it and our dynamic was more about Service and Worship.
Speaking of a Chastity Cage…for those who aren’t familiar with them…is a brief overview alright?
A Chastity Cage is a device used to prevent a man from getting an erection and therefore controls his ability to masturbate and/or have sex and orgasms. It covers the penis and prevents the man from touching it. It can also make erections uncomfortable. It often has a lock attached and the person who has the key is usually a Dominant/Top, also known as a Keyholder. Once again, keep in mind that this is something that definitely requires safety and consent. So PLEASE bring it up during Vetting!
Chastity is a very personal and intimate experience. It takes Communication, Commitment, Consistency, Caution and of course, Consent. Time for the Pillars.
COMMUNICATION. As this girl mentioned earlier, she discovered through Vetting what her toys’ viewpoints were concerning Chastity. But the communication continued. Before, during and after being in Chastity. There is much to learn about each other. Talk about how it feels mentally, physically, emotionally. Talk about observations and Lessons Learned. Just TALK, dangit!
HONESTY. If Chastity is not for you, say that! If Chastity does it for you, say that! If you’d prefer a different device and/or method for Chastity, SPEAK UP! Don’t withhold the truth from each other. Otherwise it will affect other areas of your relationship/dynamic.
TRUST. If you haven’t established trust between each other, Chastity is stressful as hell. You’re wearing a device you don’t even have the key for. And what if there’s an emergency? There should be absolutely no doubt you are safe and your needs will be met. There should be absolutely no doubt that they won’t tamper with the device and/or find ways to violate Chastity. So take the necessary steps to build trust before engaging in Chastity.
RESPECT. Chastity is important to those who engage in it. Honor that. Be available to each other. The responsiblity and honor that comes with being a Keyholder is enormous. Take it seriously. Take Chastity seriously. It is a commitment that should be appreciated. And if you aren’t on the same page after progressing along your Journeys…respect each other’s feelings.
this girl wholeheartedly appreciated her toys and is in absolute awe of male submissives because they are stronger and more courageous than most of us even realize. It’s an absolute honor and pleasure to share this journey with them.
****Okay, I’ll say it…if you are one of those individuals who mock, disrespect or otherwise talk trash about male submissives (unless that’s their kink, of course)…KNOCK IT OFF before you run up on one whose Dom/me will allow them to knuckle up and beat the brakes off your ignorant asses. Ya dig?
Thanks for reading.
~His Duchess
