Surrender
“Once Upon A Time…” She walked in and began to kneel. He said, “No…Inspection.” She obeyed. She looked at Him; His eyes were…different. She looked down; the slap was quick and sharp. She wasn’t expecting it. Her eyes watered. Her cheek burned. Her mouth watered. Is that…blood? Suddenly His hand was on her arm, lifting…
Regina Charlisa
Treasures
If you are new to BDSM, or impact play specifically, you might wonder what to do about your conspicuously hot post-play marks or “treasures” as some have referred to them as. Kinksters have different strategies for dealing with bruises depending on what aligns best with their lifestyle. You have options… The Boldest (and Riskiest) Choice:…
Matthias Black
Starting and Stopping
ne·go·ti·a·tion /nəˌɡōSHēˈāSH(ə)n noun Heyyy, Y/y’all! Entering into a BDSM relationship is much like getting into any other type of relationship. However it is also unlike many relationships in many ways. The old phrase “knowledge is power” holds true for anyone who is considering getting into a BDSM relationship and signing a contract. Getting that knowledge…
Releasing the Inner Animal
*cue tribal drums* All of us have it…An aggressive inner force, an animalistic energy that we encounter occasionally, usually in times of extreme emotional or physical duress. Sometimes it comes to our aid, allowing the proverbial 100lb mother to lift a car off her injured child situation. Sometimes it lashes out at random, injuring or killing…
A Constant Adventure
Heyyy, Y/y’all! Okay, so Y/you see something that intrigues Y/you and say to yourself, “S/self…I like that! I think I am using/trying that one!” Okay GREAT! But will Y/you research it first? Find out if it is physically/mentally/emotionally/ financially possible to incorporate into Y/your dynamic(s)? Y/you know all the folks that saw “The Movies” that…
Location, Location,LOCATION!!!
Heyyy, y’all! O/our Thing is vast, exciting, challenging, exhilarating and exhausting under ideal circumstances. But add lack of opportunity to that mix and things can get even more interesting. There are folks who live in rural areas or metropolitan but less Kink positive cities. That sucks, right? Imagine trying to live your best kinky life…
Respectful Voyeurism
As I am writing this article, I am sitting in the chair of a hotel room, while two women (One semi-nude, one completely nude) are lying in bed together. The sounds next to me indicate that someone is enjoying a good morning finger-fuck at the moment. Low whispers, grateful moans, faint sounds of moisture…You get…
In Position Part 1: In Service
Over the next ten weeks, we shall be going over various parts of service and positioning of the submissive and slave. My hope is with this knowledge, you find more beauty in your dynamic, and honor to one another. To offer and accept service are two different things; and we shall be going over both…
Castar Daemon
Lesson Learned
“I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think.” – Socrates Quick question. What have you learned that has helped your life in the BDSM community? What have you learned that, once shared has helped others? Interesting thoughts that we seldom take the time to examine, but are worth their weight in gold. …
Finding a Mentor
There are guides and mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSMit is oftentimes recommended that those who are new to BDSM acquire amentor but are really never given the tools to find a mentor that is rightfor them. I know that when I first started out, I was quite fortunate tofind good…