It amazes still me after all this time when I hear guys say, “I don’t eat pussy.” Or when women say that their man doesn’t eat them out. This is a mistake gentleman, because unless your girl just hates the whole thing, you’re missing out and more importantly so is she, big time. Remember that every vagina is different and you need to get to know each one, or at least the one, intimately to really get it right. But here are some steps to help you along.
First it’s important to know that a vagina can be intimidating. Even after seeing hundreds of them, a new one can still send nervous chills down your spine. After all, you’re trying to make a good impression here. It is also important to remember that according to some studies 75% of women do not reach orgasm from penetration alone.
Now down to the goods:
1. Mindset. I know it may seem silly, but your mindset is important. You have to be confident and collected. If you’re nervous, how is she supposed to relax?
2. Take your time. It’s an all day buffet, so don’t rush it. Guys sometimes jump on in like it’s a chore that has to get done as soon as possible. This is not a race and the prize belongs to the tortoise in this story.
3. Hit it all on your way down. Neck, tits, belly, all of it.
4. Don’t touch right away. Now that your there, it’s time…to not touch yet.
5. Skip the interrogation. You want her to relax completely. Don’t ask her questions, you don’t need that kind of verbal feedback.
6. Start with your warm breath. Blow warm air over her vagina without touching it.
7. Love the thighs. Kiss and lightly nibble her inner thighs.
8. Go all the way down. Don’t forget the knees, especially the backs. This is typically a super sensitive area. If you like feet, give those toes a suck.
9. Back up. Work your way back up to her vagina, hitting all the spots again.
10. Blow her. Now… begin blowing your warm air again on her vagina. NOT inside of her just outside.
11. Everywhere but there. Kiss all around her pussy without actually touching it. By now, she should be getting very excited.
12. Now touch. With wet fingers spread her labias apart and begin kissing the outer labia.
13. Lick it. Make your tongue flat and begin licking her labia from the bottom, working your way up. Then, return to the bottom using the tip of your tongue.
14. Suck the lips. Take her inner lips gently in your mouth and begin to slowly and gently suck on them.
15. Go inside. As you make your way down, enter her vagina with your tongue. Keeping your tongue flat and as stiff as possible, slowly moving in and out. Then, curl your tongue upwards and run your tongue along the top of the inner wall.
**At this point, you will notice we have not touched her clit yet. (If you don’t know, the clit is the little man in the top of the boat.) After spending time on the above steps, it’s time to move into direct clit stimulation. (Some women have very sensitive clits and you will need to be aware of this. If they have an overly sensitive clit, you may actually cause pain or discomfort.)
16. Expose the clit. Use a finger to gently push the hood up to reveal the clit.
17. Kiss it. With the clit exposed, gently put you mouth and lips on the clit.
18. Suck it. Place your tongue under the clit while putting your mouth and lips around and above the clit. Begin an upward licking on the bottom of the clit, while lightly sucking to create a suction like feeling.
19. The sidelines. The sides of the clit need attention too. Lick in a firm and smooth circular motion going around the clit. This typically provides a nice sensation.
20. Harder. As you continue, pressure should gradually increase.
21. Get it all. The art of cunnilingus involves the entire pussy, not just one part. Use circular motions and figure 8s. Don’t neglect the taint.
22. Use your fingers but gently. For added sensation, you can use your fingers in conjunction with your tongue. If your feeling like you’ve found your rhythm, go for the G. Insert two fingers, about roughly an inch or two, and make a come hither motion. Make sure your nails are trimmed and not jagged.
23. Now here comes the tricky part. As I said earlier all vaginas are different and each one will have it’s perfect spot with the perfect pressure. Whether it be with your tongue alone or in combination with your fingers, use the signals that she gives, such as body movement, moans and other actions to find her spot. Once you get the right spot and she is on her way to climax, stay focused. Any change or interruption can really mess it up for a woman. You can be right there and even a slight change in pressure can keep her from that magical O. If this happens, just keep calm and keep going. Keep in mind what works and what doesn’t.
24. We’re not finished. Just because “you” think she’s done, don’t stop. There is nothing worse than being right there and then not obtaining the O. Keep going, letting her and her body language tell you when she’s done.
25. Eat and repeat. Remember that women can receive multiple orgasms and if you can take her there, do it. Trust me she will grab you by the hair or try and squish your head with her knees when she’s had enough. (I personally love when she’s quivering all over begging me to stop. That’s the best.)
Remember that repeating steps is a good thing and please understand that this is a basic introduction and not an advanced “how to guide.” Take your time, discover what steps drive her wild and enjoy it. I love nothing more than dining at the y and I hope you will as well.
