she walked into the garage and saw Him. He was standing next to the heavy bag, breathless, sweaty and SMILING. “Come get some.” He gestured towards her gloves. she took everything in…the music, the smells, the energy…it was GLORIOUS. she realized she needed this. More importantly…HE knew it. she got a few good punches in and felt the familiar rush of excitement and then…He pounced. When tf did He take His gloves off? He shoved her against the heavy bag. It caught her off guard. she tried to steady herself, but He overpowered her. As she tried to defend herself, He pinned her hands behind her back. she heard Him chuckle. “Too slow.” He let go of her hands. she gathered herself and as she tried to turn around He grabbed her again and dragged her down to the floor. she struggled to break free but she was smiling. “Get up. You lose,” He said as He helped her up. she stood there, confused and frustrated. Sad, she took off her gloves and walked back into the house. As she walked into the the livingroom she heard Him whisper, “Round Two.” she wasn’t ready. He dragged her to the couch.
this girl has been in a lot of fights lol. Even broke her trigger finger because of a horrible punch lol. her husband decided it might be beneficial to get her trained as a boxer. But she had a secret that she kept from him, from everyone. Until HIM. The FLYGOD shares her affinity for boxing. And she confessed to her secret to Him. Instead of judging, He embraced it and assured her that she would be able to explore it. GLORIOUS. So now…with His patience and guidance…she can be free to indulge. The gloves, the heavy bag, the sound of punches landing, the scents, the sweat…sensory overload. Watching an MMA Event is pure heaven for her. The sheer power. And sparring with Him is the ultimate in bliss. Because when it’s over, even though she inevitably loses…she wins.
The FLYGOD LOVES when this girl struggles. It makes Him get rougher with her. His eyes become glazed over like He is in another place entirely. “Go ahead…no one can save you. Did you forget? Your ass belongs to ME!” When He holds this girl down and shoves every inch inside her, her muffled screams just make Him even harder. “Keep fighting me and I’ll keep hurting you.” The secret is…she LOVES EVERY AGONIZING MOMENT OF IT. It’s like a deliciously decadent dance; elegant yet Primal. Savage and sensual. The moment she gives up fighting Him because He is so powerful is peaceful to her. she needs that. she yearns for it. To be taken, savagely and completely. To be reminded that she is Owned.
Now for the scientific part lol.
Agonophilia: sexual desire that stems from pretend sexual violence and pretend fighting, boxing, etc. According to Kinkly, “People who experience Agonophilia are aroused by the struggle and the feeling of power over another person. A willing partner will pretend to resist one’s advances before giving in. The “struggle” may involve BDSM practices and devices, such as cuffs and chains.”
Is there potential for confusion or blurred lines between what is pleasurable and what is harmful? Absolutely! this girl kept this part of herself from her husband and she’s known him her entire life because she was afraid he would never understand. And many won’t. But W/we don’t need them to understand. Be brave. Be honest. The way to keep this in perspective is through communication and transparency. Talk about it. Plan it out. But remember that the spontaneous aspect is critical to Agonophiliacs to heighten their desire. So, as with CNC, be ready to NOT be ready lol. this girl hopes that makes sense. It is important to acknowledge that negotiation and consent MUST take place before this type of event occurs. It may or may not be Y/your thing for MANY reasons and that is cool. But it is NOT abuse! Consent is the key.
So how do W/we make this a reality? It can start with a simple conversation. Discuss boundaries, limits, location, duration, equipment all other logistics. This is also a great opportunity to script it all out for complete clarity and consent. Some have gone so far as to have releases drawn up and signed. Better safe than sorry, right?
Bottom Line…this is something Y/you choose to explore, make damn sure that Y/you approach it with clarity, caution and consent, Y/y’all.
~His Duchess