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Location, Location,LOCATION!!!

Location, Location,LOCATION!!!

Heyyy, y’all! O/our Thing is vast, exciting, challenging, exhilarating and exhausting under ideal circumstances. But add lack of opportunity to that mix and things can get even more interesting. There are folks who live in rural areas or metropolitan but less Kink positive cities. That sucks, right? Imagine trying to live your best kinky life…

Respectful Voyeurism

Respectful Voyeurism

As I am writing this article, I am sitting in the chair of a hotel room, while two women (One semi-nude, one completely nude) are lying in bed together. The sounds next to me indicate that someone is enjoying a good morning finger-fuck at the moment. Low whispers, grateful moans, faint sounds of moisture…You get…

In Position Part 1: In Service

In Position Part 1: In Service

Over the next ten weeks, we shall be going over various parts of service and positioning of the submissive and slave. My hope is with this knowledge, you find more beauty in your dynamic, and honor to one another. To offer and accept service are two different things; and we shall be going over both…

Lesson Learned

Lesson Learned

“I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think.” – Socrates Quick question. What have you learned that has helped your life in the BDSM community? What have you learned that, once shared has helped others? Interesting thoughts that we seldom take the time to examine, but are worth their weight in gold. …

Finding a Mentor

Finding a Mentor

There are guides and mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSMit is oftentimes recommended that those who are new to BDSM acquire amentor but are really never given the tools to find a mentor that is rightfor them. I know that when I first started out, I was quite fortunate tofind good…

Littles,  Middles, and Bigs, oh my!

Littles, Middles, and Bigs, oh my!

I’ve noticed in my many years of being in the “communities”, that with this new generation of kinksters, comes an influx of what some people call a “controversial” archetype… The Little and Age-player. There seems to be a misunderstanding of the littles, middles, princesses, princes, young royals, and even liddles. Some say they are part…

Impact Play

Impact Play

Basics Before Play Impact play is by far one of my favorite kinks and the most common in my daily  life. I am committed to turning anything into an impact tool. In this first section, we will discuss the basics before impact play. We will also discuss Prep and headspace, spankings, flogging, whipping, caning and…

Becoming the New Norm

Becoming the New Norm

Fetish Sex, Kink and D/s BDSM are oftentimes the most vilified, feared and misunderstood dimension of our sexual nature.  For centuries, culture, religion, morality, and family, have tried to nullify all but the most rudimentary dimensions of our sexual nature, and project their own superstition and fear onto anything that deviates from their narrow view….

Worship the D

Worship the D

She was knelt before him, the outline of his cock calling to her only inches away. His symbol of power and potency firm and erect as she grasped his zipper between her teeth. Gently she unbuttoned his pants with her hands and pulled back and down on his zipper easing his pants down and his…

Masturbation

Masturbation

I mean, May is National Masturbation Month after all, right? Okay then…First, the basics. Masturbation is when an individual stimulates their genitals for sexual pleasure, which may or may not lead to orgasm. Masturbation is common among men and women of all ages and plays a role in one’s healthy sexual development. People masturbate for…