Dominance and submission 101

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Swimming With Sharks

Swimming With Sharks

she logged in less than five minutes ago and it has already begun. Checking her messages, she saw the usual “I saw your post/picture/comment” messages. Some completely benign; others positively Cringeworthy. Taking a deep breath, she settled in for another round of “Interesting or Cringey?” Another day…Another opportunity to learn. BDSM is like an ocean…with…

Oops!

Oops!

This one is boring. You will probably stop reading. Chances are that you’ll never read this Column again. But…here goes nothin’. The Bartender smiled and said, “What can I get ya, hon?” As she scanned the back patio she realized that she felt out of place. She turned back to the Bartender, smiled and said,…

Pillars And Puzzles

Pillars And Puzzles

Okay…so who likes puzzles? this girl certainly does! Yet some puzzles give her the blues lol. Like the ones you ALMOST have figured out but the final pieces prove to be a challenge that frustrates the hell out of us lol. Enough about that for now lol. So…It’s been a hectic week, y’all. this girl…

Ruined.

Ruined.

The message read, “Your outfit is in the garment bag in your closet. You have 1 hour.”she read it twice. And then her mind started racing. Had she missed something? Was this a celebration? A setup? As she started to let her Anxiety overtake her, she received another message. “Now u have 57 minutes. Not…

Gentleman D/Types or “Gentle-Doms”

Gentleman D/Types or “Gentle-Doms”

Being Dominant is not a replacement for having a personality. Some tend to think that it is and if they can be Dominant, then it would help them to associate with people who would not associate with them in the “vanilla” world. I guess this is why one of my classifications in the world of…

“Shhhhh…”

“Shhhhh…”

She watched as he addressed the reporters asking him questions. His uniform was pristine; his posture and hand gestures were perfect. She was very proud of him. When it was her turn to speak, she was equally poised. But then she heard something that slightly sounded like…is that…laughter?! He was laughing and joking…during her interview….

“Lock & Key”

“Lock & Key”

Once Upon A Time when she was on the other side of the slash… It was a hectic day at work. she worked outside and during December in Germany, driving a forklift can be brutal. As she drove toward the loading dock, she saw him. The Warehouse Supervisor. The Soldier in charge. Standing there, looking…

“Travelers”

“Travelers”

As a 24 year old Army Spouse in Italy, life was good. she was a Receptionist and even had an important role in the Community. Mrs. B had been spending her mornings helping with a Coupon Exchange and Contest. They talked and laughed about life. Mrs. B was smart, funny, MAGNETIC and sexy. And bi…

Getting Into Your Dominant Frame of Mind

Getting Into Your Dominant Frame of Mind

Whether your dynamic is a 24/7 live in relationship, a long distance relationship, or even that chance encounter with a wonderful submissive at you met at your local dungeon, you better believe that you want to be in your Dominant Mode frame of mind. You may work in an office doing the corporate minion thing….

“Tune Up Time!”

“Tune Up Time!”

“Use your words.” she stood across the bed from Him. she made a fist and dug her thumbnail into her palm until it hurt. It felt…GLORIOUS. But it wasn’t enough. He stood completely still, eyes locked on her. He glanced at her hand. “Still nothing, huh?” His face changed. Was that…a frown? “Humble.” she immediately…