Welp…here she is AGAIN…restrained and ready. Also anxious and excited. Then her favorite sound…HIS VOICE. “Before the gag is in place, let’s review the taps, slave.” she steadied herself and said, “One tap for physical, Lord. Two taps for mental, Lord. Three taps for spiritual, Lord. Four taps for emotional, Lord.” He lovingly squeezed her toes. “Well done, slave. Let’s get it.” A wave of peace and stillness replaced the anxiety as she thought to herself, “she is amazingly protected.”
Heyyy, y’all! BDSM and Kink can be a fun and exciting way to explore your sexuality, but safety should always be a top priority. Please allow this girl to share a few essential safety tips for Our Thing to ensure a safe, enjoyable and transformative experience for all everyone involved.
*Communicate and Negotiate
Before engaging in any activity, communicate your desires, boundaries, and limits with your partner(s). Negotiate what you are comfortable with and speak up if that changes.
*Use Safety Words
A safety word is a predetermined word or signal that indicates when to stop the scene immediately. Choose a word that is easy to remember and not easily confused with other words. Keep in mind that for several folx a safe word isn’t necessary. Mind ya business and focus on YOUR own thing instead.
*Know Your Limits
It’s absolutely crucial that we are aware of our physical and emotional limits and don’t push ourselves beyond what we can handle. If you’re new to BDSM, try to start slowly and gradually increase intensity. And be completely honest about this with your partner(s), please.
*Use Protective Gear
Use protective gear such as condoms, gloves, and mouth guards to prevent injury and transmission of fluids until or unless you are fluid bound.
*Monitor Your Body
Pay attention to your body’s response before, during and after the scene and stop if you experience any discomfort or undesired pain.
*Aftercare
It’s important to remember that some folx do not need Aftercare. This is initially discussed during Vetting. For those who need it, after activities, engage in aftercare to ensure both partners are physically and emotionally comfortable. This may include cuddling, hydration, and discussion. Negotiate and plan out the specific type of Aftercare you need. This will help to avoid drop.
*Research and Education
Listen, y’all…we must continuously research and educate ourselves on BDSM techniques, safety, and best practices to ensure we safely learn and grow.
*Scene Planning
Plan your scene in advance, considering factors such as time, location, and equipment to name a few. Some of us have even taken time to write everything out in advance for review, negotiation, and troubleshooting.
*Emergency Preparedness
Have a plan in place for emergencies, including first aid kits and a phone nearby. Distress signals and check ins help mitigate this.
Bottom line…Remember, safety is everyone’s responsibility in the BDSM community. Prioritize Communication, Respect, Honesty, and Trust to create a positive and fulfilling experience each time.
this girl appreciates your valuable time.
~ His Duchess
