Handling Arguments
I think one reason that the answer did not come to me straight away is that Dahlia and I do not argue on a regular basis. I would have to say we have one or two major disagreements a year that would be considered a relationship argument. For the sake of comparison, my ex and I…
Matthias Black
In Position Part 3: Admittance of Error/Coming Clean
Part Three of a Ten part Series Greetings to all you wonderful readers out there. Today I hope to inspire the mind by continuing on Positioning of a slave/sub. We have already experienced the commands of kneeling and in service. Last week we spoke about the How-to’s of s-type positioning when one is incapable due…
Castar Daemon
In Position Part 2: Disabilities in Service
Welcome back to our second installment of submissive and slave positioning. Today we are going to talk about, “what to do when we are disabled, elderly or handicapped and cannot do certain positions any longer.” Well, don’t you worry, Master Daemon has the answers for you. Sidenote- Yes I just referred to myself in third…
Words of Advice For the Brand New Dominant…In No Particular Order.
1)As I have said time and time again, beating somebody does not make you a Dominant. Let’s face it, anybody can be taught how to use a cane, ridingcrop, flogger, restraints, etc. Just because you have become adept atkicking somebody’s ass is not the mark of a Dominant. At worst, you are anabuser and should…
In Position Part 1: In Service
Over the next ten weeks, we shall be going over various parts of service and positioning of the submissive and slave. My hope is with this knowledge, you find more beauty in your dynamic, and honor to one another. To offer and accept service are two different things; and we shall be going over both…
Lesson Learned
“I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think.” – Socrates Quick question. What have you learned that has helped your life in the BDSM community? What have you learned that, once shared has helped others? Interesting thoughts that we seldom take the time to examine, but are worth their weight in gold. …
Thoughts Regarding Service
Service is an important part of most D/s and M/s relationships. The term “service” can be applied to both sides of these relationships, but this discussion will be limited to the more obvious service rendered by the bottom, submissive or slave. Disclaimer: I will also be using the terms Master and slave as well as…
Finding a Mentor
There are guides and mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSMit is oftentimes recommended that those who are new to BDSM acquire amentor but are really never given the tools to find a mentor that is rightfor them. I know that when I first started out, I was quite fortunate tofind good…
Littles, Middles, and Bigs, oh my!
I’ve noticed in my many years of being in the “communities”, that with this new generation of kinksters, comes an influx of what some people call a “controversial” archetype… The Little and Age-player. There seems to be a misunderstanding of the littles, middles, princesses, princes, young royals, and even liddles. Some say they are part…
Becoming the New Norm
Fetish Sex, Kink and D/s BDSM are oftentimes the most vilified, feared and misunderstood dimension of our sexual nature. For centuries, culture, religion, morality, and family, have tried to nullify all but the most rudimentary dimensions of our sexual nature, and project their own superstition and fear onto anything that deviates from their narrow view….