Role, Interrupted
What happens to your dynamic when life changes the landscape, and how you find your way through it together By kinky smurf There’s a version of your dynamic that exists when everything is aligned. When the structure is present, the roles are fully inhabited, and the connection between you hums with the quiet certainty of…
DOMINANCE AS A DISCIPLINE
There is a kind of man or woman, who walks into a room and the air changes. Not because they demand it. Not because they announce themselves. But because they have done something quietly, privately, for years. They have learned to govern themselves. This is where Dominance begins. Not in another person. In oneself. Power…
submission
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed Domination, as well as some key points that Dominants should be aware of to maintain a healthy dynamic. A large portion of that involved certain responsibilities that fall on the Dominant, but they are only part of the dynamic. This week we’re going to have a look at…
Ending a Power Exchange Dynamic
Ending a power exchange (PE) relationship is not like ending most vanilla relationships. The depth of trust, structure and interdependence involved means that a Dominant has a profound responsibility to navigate the transition with care, respect and ethical integrity. Whether the relationship was lifelong or short term, whether it ended amicably or due to conflict,…
Needs vs. Wants in Relationships
The Ultimate Balancing Act When it comes to relationships, deciphering what you need versus what you want can feel like a tug of war between your inner toddler and your adult self. On one hand, you might think, “I need my partner to bring me breakfast in bed every Sunday.” But do you really need…
How to Keep the Spark Alive
Let’s face it, even the most passionate of relationships can slip into a comfortable rhythm over time. You’ve gone from all night marathons of affection to, well, binge watching Netflix in separate blankets. And while there’s nothing wrong with that, we all love a cozy night in, maintaining excitement in your intimate life can feel…
The Power Imbalance in Power Exchange Dynamics
In the amazingly complicated world of power exchange relationships, it’s easy to get caught up in the allure of a clearly defined dynamic where one person takes the lead and the other follows. Sounds simple right? Well as any experienced participant will tell you, maintaining this balance of power isn’t as straightforward as it seems,…
Recognizing the Signs of Gaslighting – Shedding Light on Manipulative Tactics
Gaslighting, a term derived from the play and subsequent movie “Gas Light,” refers to a form of psychological manipulation that aims to make the victim question their perception of reality, memory, and sanity. Gaslighting can occur in personal relationships, workplaces, and even in larger social or political contexts. Identifying the signs of gaslighting is crucial…
The Art of the Pinch
Thlipsosis is described as the fetish for being pinched or pinching a partner.Even if you don’t have a kink or fetish for this per se, you might be surprised at all the ways it can be used. The pinch is the squeezing of the skin whether it be with the thumb and the finger, with…
“Travelers”
As a 24 year old Army Spouse in Italy, life was good. she was a Receptionist and even had an important role in the Community. Mrs. B had been spending her mornings helping with a Coupon Exchange and Contest. They talked and laughed about life. Mrs. B was smart, funny, MAGNETIC and sexy. And bi…
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