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Basic Rope Bondage Safety
Basic Rope Bondage Safety

Hey Matthias, why even consider bondage safety?  Bondage plays the same role in sex as extreme sports do in athletics. Both go beyond the mainstream, pushing limits past the comfort level of the general populace. Both thrive on the adrenaline rush of feeling at risk and the lure of acting unconventional. And both are viewed as just a…

Littles,  Middles, and Bigs, oh my!
Littles, Middles, and Bigs, oh my!

I’ve noticed in my many years of being in the “communities”, that with this new generation of kinksters, comes an influx of what some people call a “controversial” archetype… The Little and Age-player. There seems to be a misunderstanding of the littles, middles, princesses, princes, young royals, and even liddles. Some say they are part…

Impact Play
Impact Play

Basics Before Play Impact play is by far one of my favorite kinks and the most common in my daily  life. I am committed to turning anything into an impact tool. In this first section, we will discuss the basics before impact play. We will also discuss Prep and headspace, spankings, flogging, whipping, caning and…

Becoming the New Norm
Becoming the New Norm

Fetish Sex, Kink and D/s BDSM are oftentimes the most vilified, feared and misunderstood dimension of our sexual nature.  For centuries, culture, religion, morality, and family, have tried to nullify all but the most rudimentary dimensions of our sexual nature, and project their own superstition and fear onto anything that deviates from their narrow view….

Worship the D
Worship the D

She was knelt before him, the outline of his cock calling to her only inches away. His symbol of power and potency firm and erect as she grasped his zipper between her teeth. Gently she unbuttoned his pants with her hands and pulled back and down on his zipper easing his pants down and his…

Masturbation
Masturbation

I mean, May is National Masturbation Month after all, right? Okay then…First, the basics. Masturbation is when an individual stimulates their genitals for sexual pleasure, which may or may not lead to orgasm. Masturbation is common among men and women of all ages and plays a role in one’s healthy sexual development. People masturbate for…

Let’s Go to a Play Party
Let’s Go to a Play Party

What is a Play Party? A Play Party is a social gathering of people with an interest in kink or BDSM that usually happens in a more private setting. Unlike Munches, the gathering will typically have kink activities going on. This may include everything from instructional guides to full-on scenes. Some Play Parties will have…

Let’s Talk About Prostate Massages
Let’s Talk About Prostate Massages

Some refer to the prostate as the male g-spot, and massaging it just right can blow the mind of about any guy. The prostate gland produces the majority of a man’s ejaculation fluid. The massaging of the prostate gland can have a significant impact on the sensation of a man’s orgasm; creating a longer, deeper…

Squirt Can Happen
Squirt Can Happen

Female ejaculation, an elusive notion for some, squirt is something most have never experienced. It’s true that some women blow like Old Faithful but there are others, like myself, that felt this feat was possibly unattainable. Turns out, it really wasn’t, we just needed to get a little technical. Prep First:  Make sure you have…

Creating the Scene
Creating the Scene

“How do I create a scene?”  This is a question that seems to get asked a lot, but the truth is, a scene is personal. Limits, wants, and desires are different for everyone. However, these are a few helpful tips you can use to design the scene of your fantasies.  Location, Location, Location Where will…