Dominance and submission 101

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Gentleman D/Types or “Gentle-Doms”

Gentleman D/Types or “Gentle-Doms”

Being Dominant is not a replacement for having a personality. Some tend to think that it is and if they can be Dominant, then it would help them to associate with people who would not associate with them in the “vanilla” world. I guess this is why one of my classifications in the world of…

“Shhhhh…”

“Shhhhh…”

She watched as he addressed the reporters asking him questions. His uniform was pristine; his posture and hand gestures were perfect. She was very proud of him. When it was her turn to speak, she was equally poised. But then she heard something that slightly sounded like…is that…laughter?! He was laughing and joking…during her interview….

“Lock & Key”

“Lock & Key”

Once Upon A Time when she was on the other side of the slash… It was a hectic day at work. she worked outside and during December in Germany, driving a forklift can be brutal. As she drove toward the loading dock, she saw him. The Warehouse Supervisor. The Soldier in charge. Standing there, looking…

“Travelers”

“Travelers”

As a 24 year old Army Spouse in Italy, life was good. she was a Receptionist and even had an important role in the Community. Mrs. B had been spending her mornings helping with a Coupon Exchange and Contest. They talked and laughed about life. Mrs. B was smart, funny, MAGNETIC and sexy. And bi…

Getting Into Your Dominant Frame of Mind

Getting Into Your Dominant Frame of Mind

Whether your dynamic is a 24/7 live in relationship, a long distance relationship, or even that chance encounter with a wonderful submissive at you met at your local dungeon, you better believe that you want to be in your Dominant Mode frame of mind. You may work in an office doing the corporate minion thing….

“Tune Up Time!”

“Tune Up Time!”

“Use your words.” she stood across the bed from Him. she made a fist and dug her thumbnail into her palm until it hurt. It felt…GLORIOUS. But it wasn’t enough. He stood completely still, eyes locked on her. He glanced at her hand. “Still nothing, huh?” His face changed. Was that…a frown? “Humble.” she immediately…

“Surviving The Fall”

“Surviving The Fall”

He did that thing she loved! she was in the shower, singing loudly, off key like a MF. she caught herself and laughed. Girl, that was a week ago! Regroup! she smiled as she remembered how He was prepared to pamper her, but she asked to be left alone. He graciously obliged her, but brought…

“Okay, I’ll say it…AGAIN”

“Okay, I’ll say it…AGAIN”

Heyyy, Y/y’all! Let’s talk about Labels. Some find them helpful or even a requirement; others find them unnecessary and frustrating. Truth is, W/we all believe in O/our bones that W/we know the best way to describe U/us and that’s all that matters. If folks don’t get it, oh well. Noted and understood, F/fam. But let’s…

“The Leap”

“The Leap”

she took a deep breath and gathered herself. It was time. she had to. But then the doubts and fears crept in. What will happen? Will this change everything? Maybe it will change how He feels. And then…she took another deep and recited in her head, “Respect. Communication. Trust. Honesty.” Then she felt ready. Yes…she’s…

“Kink With A Wink”

“Kink With A Wink”

she was up early, prepping for the class she would be teaching later that morning. He asked if she was fully prepared. “Yes, Sir. this slave enjoys teaching this module, Signore.” she wondered…did she sound arrogant? Could He tell how nervous she was??? Dammit! Of course! That’s why He’s so quiet! “Let’s help you remain…