“Ready for it, sparky?” She grinned as she surveyed her work. He was tied to the chair, nipples clamped, caged, gagged and blindfolded. Yet, he responded in every way he could. He tapped his hands twice. He nodded emphatically. She pulled the gag out, lifted the blindfold, and asked AGAIN. “Are you ready for your edging session?” He locked eyes with her, cleared his throat, smiled, then said, “Your toy is ready to be your vessel of pain and pleasure, Regina.” She licked his right cheek, then slapped it. “Good answer! Let’s get it!”
Heyyy, y’all!!! Let’s break down what happened here. Before the session began, the toy soldier gave explicit prior permission to continue. Consent is a cornerstone of BDSM; ensuring all parties interact willingly and enthusiastically. However, consent goes beyond a simple “yes”, “no”, or “okay.” In BDSM, various types of consent exist, each serving a unique purpose.
Types of Consent:
- Informed Consent: Partners understand the activities, risks, and boundaries involved.
- Enthusiastic Consent: Ongoing, active, and voluntary agreement, demonstrated through verbal cues and body language.
- Specific Consent: Explicit agreement for particular activities or scenes.
- Blanket Consent: General agreement for a partner to take charge, with implicit trust and understanding.
- Meta-Consent: Ongoing discussion and agreement on the parameters of consent itself.
- Safe Word Consent: Establishing a clear signal to stop or pause activities.
- Negotiated Consent: Collaborative discussion and agreement on boundaries and desires.
We must understand the nuances of Consent at all times. Here’s a summary:
*Context Matters! Consider the power dynamics, cultural differences, life experience, upbringing, emotional state, and experience level of all parties involved.
*Consent is Ongoing! Regularly check-in and reconfirm consent throughout the relationship or scene.
*Consent can be withdrawn! Recognize that consent is revocable at any time, without penalty or judgment. Safe words, signals, et cetera.
*Communication is Key! Encourage open dialogue, active listening, and empathy. Be specific during negotiation.
In BDSM, Consent is a multifaceted and critical concept. When we recognize and respect the different types of Consent, partners can create a safe, trusting, and fulfilling environment for exploration and expression. Remember, consent is an ongoing process that requires continuous communication, empathy, and understanding.
Thanks for reading.
~ His Duchess
