Gender Identity Terms
Disclaimer: Be mindful that this guide is not exhaustive, and is both Western and United States-centric. Other cultures may use different labels and have other conceptions of gender. Gender is often defined as a social construct of norms, behaviors and roles that varies between societies and over time. Gender is often categorized as male, female…
Matthias Black
Words of Advice For the Brand New Dominant…In No Particular Order.
1)As I have said time and time again, beating somebody does not make you a Dominant. Let’s face it, anybody can be taught how to use a cane, ridingcrop, flogger, restraints, etc. Just because you have become adept atkicking somebody’s ass is not the mark of a Dominant. At worst, you are anabuser and should…
Lesson Learned
“I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think.” – Socrates Quick question. What have you learned that has helped your life in the BDSM community? What have you learned that, once shared has helped others? Interesting thoughts that we seldom take the time to examine, but are worth their weight in gold. …
Castar Daemon
Thoughts Regarding Service
Service is an important part of most D/s and M/s relationships. The term “service” can be applied to both sides of these relationships, but this discussion will be limited to the more obvious service rendered by the bottom, submissive or slave. Disclaimer: I will also be using the terms Master and slave as well as…
Finding a Mentor
There are guides and mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSMit is oftentimes recommended that those who are new to BDSM acquire amentor but are really never given the tools to find a mentor that is rightfor them. I know that when I first started out, I was quite fortunate tofind good…
Becoming the New Norm
Fetish Sex, Kink and D/s BDSM are oftentimes the most vilified, feared and misunderstood dimension of our sexual nature. For centuries, culture, religion, morality, and family, have tried to nullify all but the most rudimentary dimensions of our sexual nature, and project their own superstition and fear onto anything that deviates from their narrow view….
The Daily Struggle
How to help guide and monitor ones S type One of the very asked, yet hard to define questions about living a 24\7 dynamic are the “How-tos.” How to do this. How to do that. Et cetera, et cetera, you get the idea. For me, in my experience, through trial and error, it is best…
What Makes a “Good” Dominant
Anyone who talks about BDSM often spends a lot of time talking about the posers, wannabes, and fake Dominants…Myself included. Part of it is out of necessity. It seems as if every single day, I come across someone who dropped every bit of common sense in the name of submission. These are the people need…