Emotions
It can be difficult for people to display emotion. Even when we harbor strong emotions, many of us were taught as children to suppress them, so we hold back. Some of us were taught, that because strong emotions like anger or sorrow are difficult to see or make others uncomfortable we should cover them up….
Matthias Black
“A Firm Foundation”
foun·da·tion /founˈdāSH(ə)n/ (noun) an underlying basis or principle. Heyyy, y’all! E/every one of U/us can agree that O/our Thing has evolved through the years. What W/we can NOT seem to agree on is if all of the changes are good ones or not lol. So let’s take a look at a few things that will…
Regina Charlisa
Water Sports
Water sports or golden showers (commonly abbreviated g.s.) is defined as playing with urine/pee/piss. It can be urinating on or in the submissive, making the submissive drink urine or any other urine oriented BDSM activity. There is debate as to whether water sports qualify as “edge play”…It may or may not, depending on the practitioners…
‘Sup, Y/y’all! Who’s familiar with “Words have power?” this girl is fairly certain that W/we all have heard it or even said it before. But in what context? To some folks that phrase has more significance than it does to others. Words DEFINITELY have power, Y/y’all. So let’s look at how powerful some words and…
Meeting People In The Scene
“How do I meet people?” If I had a dollar for every time I read or was asked this question…Well, let’s just say, I would be writing this article on a small yacht somewhere off the Florida Keys. For some naturally charismatic, outgoing extroverts (Gives my submissive the side-eye) this is easy, people just flock naturally to…
BDSM and Sex
A common misconception that causes havoc at times in the kink community is that BDSM, sex and/or love automatically must go together. While this statement may ring true for a lot of people, it is not true for everyone. It is important not to make the assumption. For many of us, BDSM is the richest…
Starting and Stopping
ne·go·ti·a·tion /nəˌɡōSHēˈāSH(ə)n noun Heyyy, Y/y’all! Entering into a BDSM relationship is much like getting into any other type of relationship. However it is also unlike many relationships in many ways. The old phrase “knowledge is power” holds true for anyone who is considering getting into a BDSM relationship and signing a contract. Getting that knowledge…
Gender Identity Terms
Disclaimer: Be mindful that this guide is not exhaustive, and is both Western and United States-centric. Other cultures may use different labels and have other conceptions of gender. Gender is often defined as a social construct of norms, behaviors and roles that varies between societies and over time. Gender is often categorized as male, female…
Words of Advice For the Brand New Dominant…In No Particular Order.
1)As I have said time and time again, beating somebody does not make you a Dominant. Let’s face it, anybody can be taught how to use a cane, ridingcrop, flogger, restraints, etc. Just because you have become adept atkicking somebody’s ass is not the mark of a Dominant. At worst, you are anabuser and should…
Lesson Learned
“I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think.” – Socrates Quick question. What have you learned that has helped your life in the BDSM community? What have you learned that, once shared has helped others? Interesting thoughts that we seldom take the time to examine, but are worth their weight in gold. …
Castar Daemon