dominance

Compersion

Compersion

First of all, what is compersion anyway? Simply put, compersion is our wholehearted participation in the happiness of others. It is the sympathetic joy we feel for somebody else, even when their positive experience does not involve or benefit us directly. For example, as I am writing this, my submissive/poly wife is getting ready for…

Enema Play 101

Enema Play 101

Heyyy, y’all! Erotic Enemas are enjoyed by a wide number of the population. Dr. Joanne Denko coined the work Klismaphilia to describe the practices of people who enjoyed the use of enemas as a sexual stimulant. Enema Play has a strong appeal to those who enjoy anal stimulation. For those who are into Dominance and…

The Cat’s Out Of The Bag!

The Cat’s Out Of The Bag!

Okay…let’s get into this. Some of U/us spent years leading double lives. W/we work, socialize, raise families, etc…all while having desires and needs that most folks might consider dangerous. Losing custody of children, breaking the law type dangerous. So W/we kept a large part of who W/we truly are hidden. We might do this because…

Emotions

Emotions

It can be difficult for people to display emotion. Even when we harbor strong emotions, many of us were taught as children to suppress them, so we hold back. Some of us were taught, that because strong emotions like anger or sorrow are difficult to see or make others uncomfortable we should cover them up….

‘Sup, Y/y’all! Who’s familiar with “Words have power?” this girl is fairly certain that W/we all have heard it or even said it before. But in what context? To some folks that phrase has more significance than it does to others. Words DEFINITELY have power, Y/y’all. So let’s look at how powerful some words and…

“Rabbit Holes and Butterflies”

“Rabbit Holes and Butterflies”

fren·zy /ˈfrenzē/ noun a state or period of uncontrolled excitement or wild behavior. Okay, y’all…let’s do this. Vicenza Italy, 1994. this girl and her hubby were invited to a private party at a villa. she saw things that changed her forever. she became obsessed. she wanted to try EVERYTHING. she watched tons of porn, bought…

BDSM and Sex

BDSM and Sex

A common misconception that causes havoc at times in the kink community is that BDSM, sex and/or love automatically must go together. While this statement may ring true for a lot of people, it is not true for everyone. It is important not to make the assumption. For many of us, BDSM is the richest…

“W/we Need U/us!”

“W/we Need U/us!”

How many of Y/you have seen the movie “Backdraft?” The firefighters had a motto whenever one of them was about to fall and the others grabbed them and held on. They would say, “You go…WE GO!” That has stuck with this girl all these years. To be so committed to someone that you would risk…

Your First BDSM Scene

Your First BDSM Scene

Most partners engaging in BDSM for the first time do have challenges trying to plan on how they want the whole session to go.  Indeed, planning such scenes can be quite personal, however, the guidelines below to help you plan better.  -Create your goals You will have to decide on your expectations and the roles…

Surrender

Surrender

“Once Upon A Time…” She walked in and began to kneel. He said, “No…Inspection.” She obeyed. She looked at Him; His eyes were…different. She looked down; the slap was quick and sharp. She wasn’t expecting it. Her eyes watered. Her cheek burned. Her mouth watered. Is that…blood? Suddenly His hand was on her arm, lifting…