Ambiamory
If you have come across articles that I have posted from time to time, you should already know two things about me…. I am passionate about BDSM and I am a huge advocate for Polyamory. I mean really…At this point, practically everyone has heard of polyamory…A form of consensual non-monogamy in which people have multiple romantic and/or…
Matthias Black
Threesomes
While a threesome can be high on many people’s fantasy list, the fact remains that a third is a person, their feelings as well as their well-being should be addressed. Adding a third for a threesome requires thoughtful care. As you may be aware, threesomes are one of the most common fantasies amongst couples…Whether you…
Managing Your Poly Relationships
Many people assume polyamorists spend a lot of time having sex. In reality, they spend a lot of time keeping their relationships organized. While things look bleak right now for those who believe that everyone has a right to consensual sexual pleasure…To live free of hate and fear, to have access to sexual health services,…
Learning the Ropes
Rope has a special place in many of our hearts. Of all the types of bondage, rope bondage is the one that arguably looks the most artistic. It also makes for the best connection between rope rigger and the rope bunny. There are few things more intimate than running a rope along someone’s body and…
Gentleman D/Types or “Gentle-Doms”
Being Dominant is not a replacement for having a personality. Some tend to think that it is and if they can be Dominant, then it would help them to associate with people who would not associate with them in the “vanilla” world. I guess this is why one of my classifications in the world of…
Getting Into Your Dominant Frame of Mind
Whether your dynamic is a 24/7 live in relationship, a long distance relationship, or even that chance encounter with a wonderful submissive at you met at your local dungeon, you better believe that you want to be in your Dominant Mode frame of mind. You may work in an office doing the corporate minion thing….
Self-Aftercare Basics For the Single Kinkster
When you play hard as a solo kinkster, it may be up to you to care for yourself in the hours and days following a scene. Being single in the BDSM scene can be fun…You get to try playing with people you meet at munches and events, you get to experiment with new kinks and…
How Surrounding Myself with Kinksters Made Me Finally Accept My Kinks
As John Donne said, “No man is an island, entire of itself…Every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main.” While that applies to your favorite hobbies like reading, video games, or raising an army of potted succulents, it also applies to your kinks too. As I found out, being surrounded…
Keeping the Kink Alive When You Are Apart
We all know that long distance relationships are hard, but what if you add BDSM into the mix? Both BDSM and long distance relationships require a lot of work to maintain just by themselves. If you happen to combine the two, you are in for a interesting ride. I know from personal experience that doubt…
Using Gender in BDSM Play
*Special thanks to Blazing Unicorn (They/Them) and their bottom, Panda Scare (They/Them) for assistance and clarification with this article. Girls wear pink, boys wear blue…Period. After all, that is it and nothing more. Unfortunately, this is the archaic and erroneous mindset some people have when it comes down to what gender is and should be even…