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Water Sports
Water Sports

Water sports or golden showers (commonly abbreviated g.s.) is defined as playing with urine/pee/piss. It can be urinating on or in the submissive, making the submissive drink urine or any other urine oriented BDSM activity. There is debate as to whether water sports qualify as “edge play”…It may or may not, depending on the practitioners…

Meeting People In The Scene
Meeting People In The Scene

“How do I meet people?” If I had a dollar for every time I read or was asked this question…Well, let’s just say, I would be writing this article on a small yacht somewhere off the Florida Keys. For some naturally charismatic, outgoing extroverts (Gives my submissive the side-eye) this is easy, people just flock naturally to…

“Rabbit Holes and Butterflies”
“Rabbit Holes and Butterflies”

fren·zy /ˈfrenzē/ noun a state or period of uncontrolled excitement or wild behavior. Okay, y’all…let’s do this. Vicenza Italy, 1994. this girl and her hubby were invited to a private party at a villa. she saw things that changed her forever. she became obsessed. she wanted to try EVERYTHING. she watched tons of porn, bought…

Your First BDSM Scene
Your First BDSM Scene

Most partners engaging in BDSM for the first time do have challenges trying to plan on how they want the whole session to go.  Indeed, planning such scenes can be quite personal, however, the guidelines below to help you plan better.  -Create your goals You will have to decide on your expectations and the roles…

Surrender
Surrender

“Once Upon A Time…” She walked in and began to kneel. He said, “No…Inspection.” She obeyed. She looked at Him; His eyes were…different. She looked down; the slap was quick and sharp. She wasn’t expecting it. Her eyes watered. Her cheek burned. Her mouth watered. Is that…blood? Suddenly His hand was on her arm, lifting…

Treasures
Treasures

If you are new to BDSM, or impact play specifically, you might wonder what to do about your conspicuously hot post-play marks or “treasures” as some have referred to them as.  Kinksters have different strategies for dealing with bruises depending on what aligns best with their lifestyle. You have options… The Boldest (and Riskiest) Choice:…

Releasing the Inner Animal
Releasing the Inner Animal

*cue tribal drums* All of us have it…An aggressive inner force, an animalistic energy that we encounter occasionally, usually in times of extreme emotional or physical duress. Sometimes it comes to our aid, allowing the proverbial 100lb mother  to lift a car off her injured child situation. Sometimes it lashes out at random, injuring or killing…

Drugs, Alcohol and the Scene
Drugs, Alcohol and the Scene

Disclaimer: Just a reminder that these opinions are mine and mine alone based on what I have personally witnessed or heard throughout my journey that I want to share with you. Just as we all know that we should not drink/do drugs and operate a motor vehicle plenty of people among us still do. Often…

Location, Location,LOCATION!!!
Location, Location,LOCATION!!!

Heyyy, y’all! O/our Thing is vast, exciting, challenging, exhilarating and exhausting under ideal circumstances. But add lack of opportunity to that mix and things can get even more interesting. There are folks who live in rural areas or metropolitan but less Kink positive cities. That sucks, right? Imagine trying to live your best kinky life…

Respectful Voyeurism
Respectful Voyeurism

As I am writing this article, I am sitting in the chair of a hotel room, while two women (One semi-nude, one completely nude) are lying in bed together. The sounds next to me indicate that someone is enjoying a good morning finger-fuck at the moment. Low whispers, grateful moans, faint sounds of moisture…You get…