submission
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed Domination, as well as some key points that Dominants should be aware of to maintain a healthy dynamic. A large portion of that involved certain responsibilities that fall on the Dominant, but they are only part of the dynamic. This week we’re going to have a look at…
Bad Daddy Drew
Domination
Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed Discipline, the importance it serves in a BDSM dynamic, and some of the parts that help in establishing and maintaining discipline. While discussing this I made mention of Dominants and submissives, which are both common roles each partner takes on in a BDSM based dynamic. The next couple…
Ending a Power Exchange Dynamic
Ending a power exchange (PE) relationship is not like ending most vanilla relationships. The depth of trust, structure and interdependence involved means that a Dominant has a profound responsibility to navigate the transition with care, respect and ethical integrity. Whether the relationship was lifelong or short term, whether it ended amicably or due to conflict,…
SmutHustler
Brutal Honesty
The Non Negotiable Foundation of a Power Exchange Dynamic When stepping into a new power exchange dynamic, there’s one rule you can’t afford to fudge, dance around or sugarcoat, be brutally honest about your needs, wants and desires. Not “hint at,” not “hope they’ll just understand,” not “assume it’ll all work out.” Full, unfiltered, cards-on-the-table…
Let’s Get Together!
Heyyy, y’all! this girl spends a ton of time around her Elders and she is learning a LOT about what “The Scene” was like. For example… Elder 1, 78 years old: “Do y’all still have meet ups? You know, eat, drink, laugh, sizing each other up? Hee hee” Elder 2, 81 years old: “We used…
Regina Charlisa
Oh, The STRESS!
What. A. Day. Work was awesome! Got everything done eat because everyone worked together! As she walked out of the building, she was floating. As she started her drive home, she was singing and smiling. Her phone dinged. And then, it hit her. Dungeon Time tonight. “$h!t! Is my hair okay? Will my outfit be…
Navigating Insecurity in Kink and BDSM
Kink and BDSM, like any intimate relationship, comes with their unique challenges and complexities. Among the most prevalent issues that can arise is insecurity, which can manifest in various forms, such as doubts about one’s worth, fear of being replaced, or uncertainty about one’s role. Acknowledging, addressing, and managing insecurity is crucial for health and…
The Conversation Continues
R: “Welp…here we are again. Hello, Brian.” He smiled, then frowned.B: “I still have trouble processing hearing you say my name, honestly. It’s like a Teacher calling me out in class.” They both chuckled. R: “Okay, a few folx have questions for you. Thanks again for doing this! Ready?” B: “READY! Let’s do it!” R:…
Bondage 101: Valentine’s Day Edition
When it comes to celebrating Valentine’s Day, chocolates and roses are classic, but why not spice things up this year with something a little more adventurous? Bondage play can be a thrilling way to explore intimacy, trust, and a connection with your partner—and yes, it can also be a whole lot of fun. Whether you’ve…
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Needs vs. Wants in Relationships
The Ultimate Balancing Act When it comes to relationships, deciphering what you need versus what you want can feel like a tug of war between your inner toddler and your adult self. On one hand, you might think, “I need my partner to bring me breakfast in bed every Sunday.” But do you really need…