Releasing the Inner Animal
*cue tribal drums* All of us have it…An aggressive inner force, an animalistic energy that we encounter occasionally, usually in times of extreme emotional or physical duress. Sometimes it comes to our aid, allowing the proverbial 100lb mother to lift a car off her injured child situation. Sometimes it lashes out at random, injuring or killing…
Matthias Black
A Constant Adventure
Heyyy, Y/y’all! Okay, so Y/you see something that intrigues Y/you and say to yourself, “S/self…I like that! I think I am using/trying that one!” Okay GREAT! But will Y/you research it first? Find out if it is physically/mentally/emotionally/ financially possible to incorporate into Y/your dynamic(s)? Y/you know all the folks that saw “The Movies” that…
Regina Charlisa
Drugs, Alcohol and the Scene
Disclaimer: Just a reminder that these opinions are mine and mine alone based on what I have personally witnessed or heard throughout my journey that I want to share with you. Just as we all know that we should not drink/do drugs and operate a motor vehicle plenty of people among us still do. Often…
Location, Location,LOCATION!!!
Heyyy, y’all! O/our Thing is vast, exciting, challenging, exhilarating and exhausting under ideal circumstances. But add lack of opportunity to that mix and things can get even more interesting. There are folks who live in rural areas or metropolitan but less Kink positive cities. That sucks, right? Imagine trying to live your best kinky life…
Respectful Voyeurism
As I am writing this article, I am sitting in the chair of a hotel room, while two women (One semi-nude, one completely nude) are lying in bed together. The sounds next to me indicate that someone is enjoying a good morning finger-fuck at the moment. Low whispers, grateful moans, faint sounds of moisture…You get…
Lesson Learned
“I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think.” – Socrates Quick question. What have you learned that has helped your life in the BDSM community? What have you learned that, once shared has helped others? Interesting thoughts that we seldom take the time to examine, but are worth their weight in gold. …
Castar Daemon
Finding a Mentor
There are guides and mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSMit is oftentimes recommended that those who are new to BDSM acquire amentor but are really never given the tools to find a mentor that is rightfor them. I know that when I first started out, I was quite fortunate tofind good…
Littles, Middles, and Bigs, oh my!
I’ve noticed in my many years of being in the “communities”, that with this new generation of kinksters, comes an influx of what some people call a “controversial” archetype… The Little and Age-player. There seems to be a misunderstanding of the littles, middles, princesses, princes, young royals, and even liddles. Some say they are part…
Impact Play
Basics Before Play Impact play is by far one of my favorite kinks and the most common in my daily life. I am committed to turning anything into an impact tool. In this first section, we will discuss the basics before impact play. We will also discuss Prep and headspace, spankings, flogging, whipping, caning and…
SmutHustler
Becoming the New Norm
Fetish Sex, Kink and D/s BDSM are oftentimes the most vilified, feared and misunderstood dimension of our sexual nature. For centuries, culture, religion, morality, and family, have tried to nullify all but the most rudimentary dimensions of our sexual nature, and project their own superstition and fear onto anything that deviates from their narrow view….