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Journaling for Littles and Middles
Journaling for Littles and Middles

Because feelings are big—and you don’t have to carry them alone! Being a Little or Middle often means feeling everything very deeply—joy, nervousness, giggles, grumps, and even those moments when everything feels like a lot. That’s part of your magic! But even magical hearts need safe ways to let those feelings out, sort through them,…

Surrender and Serenity
Surrender and Serenity

“There’s a quiet power in letting go.” As He said this to her, she knew in her heart it was true. Well…at least she knew it was true NOW. Even with all her experience, she struggled with it. So much so that, early on in her journey, it felt like she was in the ocean,…

Chemistry +Compatibility=Synergy
Chemistry +Compatibility=Synergy

She sat in her car, reflecting on what her friend just told her. “At first, I was GLAD we started doing kinky stuff! Knowing he was as excited as I was! But lately…the spark is gone! He still wants to try this toy or that kink; and I just wanna watch YouTube until I fall…

The Cautionary Tale of Being a Master
The Cautionary Tale of Being a Master

It’s Not Just the Crown You Wear Disclaimer – These are my views and I have screwed the pooch more than a few times in over 20 years of leading a beautiful and amazing submissive woman. Enjoy.  Many people love the fantasy of Dominance. The commanding presence and the control. The title of Master just…

Making Beautiful Music…Together
Making Beautiful Music…Together

He heard familiar sounds as He stepped out of the shower. He smiled as He dried Himself QUICKLY. He walked into the bedroom, taking everything in…her hair, wild. her eyes, closed. her breathing, ragged. her body, covered in goosebumps. her hands, BUSY. her moans, GLORIOUS. He walked over to her, bent down, grabbed a handful…

Intro to Poly
Intro to Poly

Under the Umbrella The last several weeks we’ve been discussing the key point to the acronym BDSM, and some of the major points involved within those dynamics.  We will be discussing more on that as we move forward, but we’ll be switching gears this week discussing another umbrella term within the community, Polyamory. Polyamory (poly)…

Masochism
Masochism

Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed sadism, along with some of the responsibilities and safety precautions.  When it comes to a sadist’s wants and needs in a dynamic, they usually pair well with the other side of that coin, a masochist.  Today we’ll be having a look at masochism including some things that a…

Sadism
Sadism

Under the Umbrella Last week we had a look at submission, and the fact that just being submissive doesn’t remove responsibility for one’s own well-being.  Awareness is an important thing for either side of the slash in any type of BDSM dynamic, and is going to weigh in heavily with this week’s topic: Sadism. Sadism…

submission
submission

Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed Domination, as well as some key points that Dominants should be aware of to maintain a healthy dynamic.  A large portion of that involved certain responsibilities that fall on the Dominant, but they are only part of the dynamic.  This week we’re going to have a look at…

Domination
Domination

Under the Umbrella Last week we discussed Discipline, the importance it serves in a BDSM dynamic, and some of the parts that help in establishing and maintaining discipline.  While discussing this I made mention of Dominants and submissives, which are both common roles each partner takes on in a BDSM based dynamic.  The next couple…