How to Tell Your Doctor That You Are Kinky
Face it, unless you are Wilbur Force, the majorly hyperactive masochist played by actor Jack Nicolson (His breakout role) in the original Little Shop of Horrors film (1960), few and far between are those who enjoy going to the doctors. Even if you have the nicest, most inclusive doctor on the planet, most people dread…
Matthias Black
Daddies and Mommies and Littles, Oh My!
Ever hear someone call their partner “Daddy” or “Mommy” and feel a little grossed out? Does the idea of an adult identifying as a “little” make you wonder what is wrong with them or wonder what that even means? Granted…While there are some sick people in the world, the Mommy/Daddy/little dynamic in D/s relationships has…
BDSM D/s Contracts…Are They Worth It?
A constant feature of any media portrayal of power exchange relationships and a common centerpiece of Master/slave fantasies: the BDSM D/s contract. While not legally binding, it does outline the entire relationship.It is typically something the D-Type crafts in private, and gives to their s-type(s) to sign. The contract outlines all of the things that…
Being “Kinky Enough”
Identifying as kinky, or just being interested in learning more about kink, is an entirely personal and individualized experience. However, Do not think that to belong to kink groups or to visit kinky spaces you must qualify as “Kinky Enough”. Whether you have twenty years of kink experience or just decided twenty minutes ago that…
Compersion
First of all, what is compersion anyway? Simply put, compersion is our wholehearted participation in the happiness of others. It is the sympathetic joy we feel for somebody else, even when their positive experience does not involve or benefit us directly. For example, as I am writing this, my submissive/poly wife is getting ready for…
What to Expect From a Play Party?
In laymen’s terms, a play party is usually a private event that hosted by someone in a private setting (Home, private or rented dungeon etc.) They are sometimes held after another more public event, such as a munch. *Disclaimer Please remember that there is no guarantee that there will be a party after any event,…
Emotions
It can be difficult for people to display emotion. Even when we harbor strong emotions, many of us were taught as children to suppress them, so we hold back. Some of us were taught, that because strong emotions like anger or sorrow are difficult to see or make others uncomfortable we should cover them up….
Water Sports
Water sports or golden showers (commonly abbreviated g.s.) is defined as playing with urine/pee/piss. It can be urinating on or in the submissive, making the submissive drink urine or any other urine oriented BDSM activity. There is debate as to whether water sports qualify as “edge play”…It may or may not, depending on the practitioners…
Meeting People In The Scene
“How do I meet people?” If I had a dollar for every time I read or was asked this question…Well, let’s just say, I would be writing this article on a small yacht somewhere off the Florida Keys. For some naturally charismatic, outgoing extroverts (Gives my submissive the side-eye) this is easy, people just flock naturally to…
BDSM and Sex
A common misconception that causes havoc at times in the kink community is that BDSM, sex and/or love automatically must go together. While this statement may ring true for a lot of people, it is not true for everyone. It is important not to make the assumption. For many of us, BDSM is the richest…