What Is Wax Play?

Wax play involves dripping warm (not scalding!) wax onto the skin for a combination of mild pain and pleasure. The sensation is intense, but with proper precautions, it’s a safe and sensual way to explore your kinky side. Plus, it’s a great excuse to stock up on sexy candles!

Start with Safety

Before you start your masterpiece, let’s make sure you don’t accidentally set the mood—or your partner—on fire.

• Use the Right Candles: Avoid regular candles, which burn too hot. Opt for candles made specifically for wax play (soy or paraffin wax burns at a lower temperature).
• Test the Wax: Drip some wax on your own skin (like your wrist) to gauge the heat. If it’s too hot for you, it’s too hot for your partner.
• Prep Your Space: Lay down towels or a plastic sheet. Wax can be fun to clean off skin—not so much off your carpet.
• Mind Sensitive Areas: Drip wax on fleshy, non-sensitive areas like the back or thighs. Avoid the face or genitals unless you’re highly experienced.
• Be Prepared: Always keep a burn cream handy for aftercare and a fire extinguisher nearby.

!Don’t forget to extinguish your flame every time and never leave a lit candle unattended!

Sexy Wax Play Tips

• Build the Anticipation: Blindfold your partner and let them hear the candlelight crackle. The suspense will heighten the experience.
• Test Drips: Start from a height of 18-24 inches to let the wax cool slightly before it lands
• Height Matters: The higher you hold the candle, the cooler the wax will be when it lands. Experiment to find the perfect distance.
• Layer Up: Try building layers of wax for an intensified sensation and a cool visual effect.
• Temperature Play: Alternate between hot wax and ice cubes for a thrilling contrast that will keep your partner guessing.
• Colored Wax: Use different colored wax to create patterns or write sexy messages on your partner’s skin. It’s like body art but kinkier!

Common Wax Play Mishaps (and How to Avoid Them)

• Wax Everywhere!
  Wax can splatter if you’re not careful. Drip slowly and steady your hand for precision.
• Oops, Too Hot!
  Test the wax first and start dripping from a height. If it’s still too hot, hold the candle even higher or let the wax cool slightly in a spoon before applying it.
• Sticky Mess
  Peeling wax can be satisfying but messy. Use coconut oil or baby oil to loosen stubborn bits from the skin.

Cleaning Up Like a Pro

Cooled wax on skin can be peeled off easily, but wax on fabrics or furniture is a different story. If you do have a spill:

• Harden the wax by placing ice on it.
• Gently scrape it off with a credit card or plastic tool.
• Use a fabric-safe cleaner to tackle any residue.

Pro Tip: Disposable sheets can make cleanup effortless.

Wax play is the perfect mix of sensual, sexy, and just a touch daring. Whether you’re crafting a work of art on your partner’s back or adding it to a sensual night of teasing, this activity offers endless opportunities for fun and connection. Just remember the key to a hot time is communication, consent, research and a sense of humor.

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Let’s discuss some basics. This list is by no means comprehensive and you should defiantly do your homework but here are some definite points that you should think about and use.

First let’s talk Prep. Yes, there is or at least should be prep work:

1. Communication is always critical in anything in our lifestyle so it should go without saying, but. Talk with your partner about the scene. Discuss hard limits, coverage areas and so on. 

2. Safeword: Please make sure everyone knows the Safeword and everyone is comfortable using it and respecting it. 

3. Plan for the worst. Make sure the scene area is clean and free of anything that is not involved in the scene. No cloths or other flammable items should be on the table in which your set up is laid out. 

4. Your partner should shave if possible, wax and hair are not good friends. 

5. Test your candles on yourself and your partner before the scene even starts. Make sure everyone can handle the intensity. 

6. Never, ever leave burning candles unattended. 

7. Have fire extinguisher, water and first aid kit in the room. If you don’t have burn cream,  don’t play. 

Now Let’s Talk Candles, 

The most important thing to remember it all boils down to ingredients:

1. Soy Candles are regularly recommended for several reasons. #1 – they burn at a much lower temperature. At about 130F. #2 – Soy based candle wax cools much more rapidly reducing the risk of scarring or serious burning. #3 – Soy is a great product and is the least likely of all candles to contain irritants. 

2. Scented and paraffin candles will burn at about 135 degrees. The problem with many of these types of candles are the additives and chemicals you find in them. Do your homework and test these to make sure there is no negative reactions for your partner. 

3. Metallic Candles are never recommended. Many metallic salts can be poisonous as well as they burn hotter and could leave permanent scarring. 

4. Beeswax candles should also never be used according to the professionals. They burn at some of the highest temperatures at a starting point of 145F and up to 170F. That is hot enough to leave serious burns, blisters and permanent scarring. 

5. Avoid anything with Stearin in it. Stearin burns so hot it can and commonly does leave second degree burns. 

They make safety candles that are highly recommended for beginning play. 

Massage candles with special oils in them can also be very nice for wax play.

TIP: If you use massage candles and some safety candles, let it burn for 15-20 minutes to allow more even melting. 

Ok Let’s Talk Application:

1. You should drop wax not pour it. 

2. Hold the candle about 2-3 minimum away from your partner. 

3. Do not allow wax to pool in natural valleys of the body or places such as the belly button. 

4. NEVER allow wax into orafices of any kind. Wax is strictly an external pleasure. 

Far be it for me to tell anyone how to play, but please allow me to share my opinion on this one matter. Wax play can be so beautiful, just like the canvas you get the privilege of decorating. Make it fun for your partner and make it an art piece. Avoid large clumping and allow for natural dripping and running because it can make such beautiful results. Just my opinion.

TIP: Rotating your candle while it burns will keep it clean and even. 

TIP: Ice hardens candle wax. So you get to give the gift of dual pleasure a little cold to calm the fire. It also will aid in the clean up. 

Speaking of clean up candle wax is messy and can be a pain to clean up and can keep you finding little pieces of wax everywhere. Buying disposable sheets can be a great way to aid in clean up.

Don’t Forget the Aftercare: 

While we know that aftercare is always crucial when playing, it can be especially important for wax play. Including a rub down of your partner’s body with a nice moisturizing cream that includes Aloe Vera can really soothe the skin. I also found that creating your own blend Aloe Vera and burn cream can be really amazing as well.  

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