She looked around and smiled. Heat surged through her entire body as she paused to monitor then adjust her breathing. Look at him, she thought to herself. He’s GLORIOUS. She prepped his skin, kissed his cheek, turned to the crowd, winked, adjusted her stance, and embraced the moment. But she maintained control, especially of the tool in her hand. Surveying the faces in the crowd gave her a vibe she couldn’t describe. She saw anticipation, excitement, desire, awe in their eyes. Everything she was feeling. “Enjoy, y’all,” She said, grinning. “I know I will!” And with a wink, she wound up, then landed her first strike. “Snap!”

Heyyyy, y’all! Have you ever said or heard the phrase, “I don’t mind an audience” or “I like to watch” before? While everyone is familiar with some form of it, Exhibitionism and Voyeurism are often misunderstood.

A large percentage of U/us think Exhibitionism is about getting it on in an open public space as well as at work, bathrooms, movie theaters, etc. Most of U/us fantasize about it or may have even done it often. But there’s more to it. MUCH more. W/we enjoy commanding attention or just simply being seen and heard. Wearing something sexy to Walmart, getting dressed or undressed with the curtains open, touching O/ourselves in front of others to distract them from whatever they were doing, taking/posting sexy pictures/videos…all of these deliciously decadent or even other benign things will send electric surges through O/our bodies. So, hate to break it some of Y/y’all while confirming for others that yeah…Y/you have probably done some Exhibitionist type things, fam.

Voyeurs like to watch and even listen to others. If Y/you have shushed someone to watch or listen to an argument and enjoyed it, that is a form of Voyeurism. Each of U/us has different things that do it for U/us so there’s a lot more involved than just watching folks get it on. Most of U/us spend time intrigued with watching what other people are doing. Reality TV, TMZ, Baller Alert, Worldstar, TikToc, Social Media, etc…all of these indulge some form of O/our Voyeuristic urges and while some are vocal about being unable or unwilling to look away, others secretly enjoy the drama, sex and scandal. In the musical Hamilton, a character sings about “just wanting to be in the room when it happens” as history is being made. Well,  Voyeurs are excited, sometimes even aroused by that. Watching as others experience pleasure or other emotions is GLORIOUS.

At this point, it’s important to remember that CONSENT and SAFETY IS CRITICAL, Y/y’all. Research the laws in Y/your area. This is also something that is an important part of Vetting; not just during passive conversation or small talk. When Exhibitionism and Voyeurism comes up, ASK QUESTIONS, LISTEN AND GET CLARIFICATION. Y/y’all know what comes next…the Pillars!

*COMMUNICATION with each other about Exhibitionism and Voyeurism helps U/us discover, understand and convey what W/we know, what W/we have done and/or want to experience, limits, etc. This is how Consent is clearly defined and achieved.  

*RESPECT each other’s feelings, boundaries, knowledge or lack thereof. RESPECT the laws in your area as well.

*HONESTY matters because being crystal clear regarding how W/we feel about Exhibitionism and Voyeurism is critical. If it makes U/us uncomfortable, speak up then be prepared to explain why. If W/we LOVE IT, speak up then be prepared to explain why.

*TRUST is CRUCIAL because, especially with these two things, O/our actions often affect others as well as O/ourselves profoundly. W/we must TRUST those W/we choose to educate U/us, those W/we choose to indulge O/our desires with, and hell, while W/we’re at it…W/we must TRUST O/ourselves as well.

Thank Y/you for Y/your time.

~ His Duchess

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They are within my visual perception and while I am enjoying the show, I will remain respectful of their boundaries for this is their moment. 

This is what I mean by RESPECTFUL Voyeurism.

She is getting spanked now. Hmm…Her moans are intensifying. Good times. 

So, as I was saying…According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, “Voyeurism” is the practice of obtaining sexual gratification from observing others or the practice of taking pleasure in observing something private, sordid, or scandalous while the term Voyeur, literally means “one who sees.” 

Classically, the term has carried with it a sexual connotation, but it can also be applied to watching non-sexual activities. An example of this would be the concept of reality T.V shows. Usually, the voyeur is spying on intimate activities such as a person changing clothes or engaging in sexual activity, and feels pleasure or excitement while watching.

The sub is being mounted and while getting her nipples tortured…And I am now being asked to record and photograph.

One moment please…

Okay, where was I?

Currently, Voyeurism is seen as is a paraphiliac disorder…Meaning that this is a condition in which a person’s sexual arousal and gratification depend on fantasizing about and engaging in sexual behavior that is atypical and extreme. A paraphilia is considered a disorder when it causes distress or threatens to harm someone else. 

The individual normally experiences sexual arousal when spying intentionally on unsuspecting people. The person being watched may be naked, disrobing, or engaging in sexual activities. The voyeur may also record these acts for later viewing. Unintentional viewing of such acts is not considered voyeuristic disorder. Voyeurs are also known as “Peeping Toms,” who use binoculars, mirrors, and recording cameras while peering through peepholes and windows.

The thing is, at least in my opinion, Respectful Voyeurism does not fall into the above description. In a figurative sense, take a look with what is going on right in front of me as I am writing this…

I have two women (Both of which are quite naked now) engaged in the midst of a rather intense session . They are aware of my presence (At least the woman who is currently flogging the other woman’s clit and inner thighs is aware. The recipient is otherwise occupied in the moment) they accept my being present and more importantly, they know that I will not interfere or distract them from their moment together. 

It is all about respect.

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