Dirty talk is something that I throughly enjoy. During a scene, my primal nature takes over and the words begin to flow out and for me, they are rough, dirty and may even come out as harsh. But it’s all part of the scene, part of the excitement and headspace I’m looking to create. 

Not many great passionate stories start with, “the room was totally silent”. Think about it. However, for some, dirty talk can be hard to utilize, especially when just getting started. It can be uncomfortable and even just sexy sensual talk can be hard to put together. So below are some tips that might help you get started and who knows? Next time you walk up to your partner and whisper something dirty in their ear, it may just get them all hot and bothered.

Building the Sexual Tension

Building sexual tension can play a huge role in creating more powerful and longer lasting orgasms for both male and female. Using dirty talk can be a great way to begin building the tension. You can use all types of naughty words or phrases delivered in various ways to tease or as foreplay.  “You’re going taste yourself off this cock later”. 

Setting a Specific Headspace 

Using the right words is critical to creating the specific headspace you’re shooting for. If you want to create a sense of sensuality, you would want use more sensual and gentle words with a more soft tone. “You are so sexy, I want you so bad right now”.  If you want to impress more obedience, you may want use more direct words that turn on your partner with a commanding tone. “On your knees you little sex slave and open that mouth”.

Control 

With the right words, in the right combination and with the right tone, you can leave your partner completely powerless and totally in your control. “You

better not cum without my permission slut”. 

Start Slow, Don’t Force It and Practice

If you’re new, don’t try to be the “porn star” of dirty talk. Take your time. Start by putting together 3-5 phrases that can be intertwined. Then practice the delivery. Make sure you are taking into consideration the time, tone, speed and the flow of your dirty talk.

Tailor To Your Partner’s Specific Tastes 

You know your partner and it’s important to take that into consideration. If your partner doesn’t like to be degraded, then calling them your “stupid little pig” may not be the right kind of dirty talk. If your partner isn’t turned on by “sweet” words, you may want to use more aggressive or direct language. You want your dirty talk to turn your partner on, so it is important to tailor it to your partner’s specific likes and avoid their dislikes. 

Tailor It To Your Specific Tastes

Using words you’re not comfortable with can leave your dirty talk sounding forced and that’s not sexy for anyone. If you don’t like cursing or vulgar language, then don’t use it. You can be nasty and dirty without it. “That little peach is dripping wet and I want to taste it”. It doesn’t have to be vulgar or aggressive, it just depends on what is best for you and your partner. You can be sexy and a little dirty while being less explicit. 

The Tone and Speed of Your Voice 

Tonality and the speed in which you deliver your message is as important as the word themselves. You can’t deliver a “bitch, on your knees” too quickly with a giggle and smile and expect it to have the right impact. Instead, whether your dirty talk is more explicit or sensual, you want to be calm, speak in a lower tone and very slowly. Go ahead and try it both ways, you will see the difference. 

It’s Not Just For Face to Face Interaction

Dirty talk can extend to all forms of communication effectively. Email, text or phone calls can be a great way to send a little dirty message to your partner. Just remember that in text or email, the seduction is better delivered in bite sizes and not one long paragraph. 

As always this is just a basic overview and everyone is different. But dirty talk in any form can make any encounter that much more seductive and enjoyable for everyone involved. 

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